More rant about dad.

[sharshenka]

I am so, so tired of thinking about my fight with Dad. Literally every moment when I'm not completely occupied with something else I'm thinking about what our next conversation will be like, if he's still mad at me, what the wedding will be like, what our future relationship will be like

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[anonymous]

so i dont have the whole backstory, but i have had some REALLY hard times with my family. being away from them before major events always gave me a lot of anxiety of how i would have to act at the next gathering. usually, i would show up for the event bracing myself for a major conflict and stocking up self-defensive retorts and my dad would just skip the apology (so agitating!) and the excitement of the event (holiday/graduation/wedding) overcomes the original fight. wedding trumps all other events so i'm optimistically/ignorantly thinking he might set it aside to give his daughter away. i think that changing the event itself (i.e. not having him walk you down the aisle) could cause regretful conflict.

is it possible to talk to your mom about it? say that you want a relationship with your dad but now that youre an adult, it cant be exclusively on his terms and he needs to respect your opinions and life (add some gratuitous you should make more of an effort to respect his?) say that you want him part of the wedding but your recent conflicts with him have given you a lot of anxiety. moms are supposed to do these things before weddings, its their job.

oh, and i get to see you soon!!