Beauty Is . . .
You know what I mean, girlfriend, even if you’re a guy. The image we see in the mirror isn’t the way other people see us. In fact, we’d never scrutinize anyone else’s flaws as thoroughly as we’ve memorized our own and burned them into our brains.
I’m privileged have friends with kids and they are lot of fun. Have you ever noticed how little girls start to socialize? “I really like your scarf” or “I like your nails. Mom painted my toenails, wanna see?” The first thing we learn as children is to hand out compliments. Most of us hand out genuine compliments to other women; it makes them smile and it makes us feel good. And just when was the last time you gave yourself a compliment? Why is it so hard to see what’s beautiful about us?
I think it’s a form of synecdoche, using part of something to represent the whole. Except with our images, we use part of something to judge the whole, too. Boobs or hips or thighs. . . We find something to criticize and fail to see the total package. But that is how other people see us. They might even find assets where we see only flaws. So, go to the mirror, just do it, and make that “blinder vision” work for you instead of against you. Find one thing you like and give yourself one honest compliment.
I’m privileged have friends with kids and they are lot of fun. Have you ever noticed how little girls start to socialize? “I really like your scarf” or “I like your nails. Mom painted my toenails, wanna see?” The first thing we learn as children is to hand out compliments. Most of us hand out genuine compliments to other women; it makes them smile and it makes us feel good. And just when was the last time you gave yourself a compliment? Why is it so hard to see what’s beautiful about us?
I think it’s a form of synecdoche, using part of something to represent the whole. Except with our images, we use part of something to judge the whole, too. Boobs or hips or thighs. . . We find something to criticize and fail to see the total package. But that is how other people see us. They might even find assets where we see only flaws. So, go to the mirror, just do it, and make that “blinder vision” work for you instead of against you. Find one thing you like and give yourself one honest compliment.