Wedding Stuffs...
Ok so...Peter & I will be getting married much sooner than we had planned. And NO it's not due to a whoopsie in the pregnancy dept (I'm def NOT pregnant); I know that's what people immediately assume. Peter feels it would be more practical in terms of Health Insurance, living together, and his terrible fear of public speaking. He wants a really tiny, simple wedding, and that's perfectly alright with me. And he wants it sooner than a year and change away. I'm okay with that too :)
We aren't sure of the definites yet. Probably sometime in December. It will be super-small. Jewish. And what we plan on doing is having a big party later on (kind of like yander and fuzzball21 did) where we can invite ALL our loved ones (that means EVERY ONE of my beloved E-gals ;) to celebrate and have a no-stress fun day. And my brother will, G-d willing, be able to be at the party because by the spring he'll be back from Afghanistan and ready to get his drink and hugs on :)
We'll probably videotape the wedding so that all those we couldn't invite since it'll be pretty much immediate family and a couple of groomsmen/bridesmaids, and their S/O's only there. + 1 Rabbi :-P Then we'll have a lunch at a restaurant and that'll be it. We haven't decided yet if it'll be in NYC or Upstate. Things are still up in the air on that.
All of this is fine with me. It'll be before I start school, so that's a huge stress off my back; not having to plan a giaganto wedding. I had a big, beautiful, Fairy-Tale Princess wedding already. It was great, but I don't need that again. I gave Peter the choice a while ago when we got engaged that because he's never been married before what kind of wedding we'd have. All I care about is that I get to be married to him :) Everything else is pretty much icing on the cake. This is the most low-stress (for both of us, won't be in school studying my ass off ;), pragmatic (health insurance, taxes, etc) way to do it for both of us. I don't want to hear "You're rushing things" or "It's too soon" or "You need time to get to know each other" BS. We've been together a year already, living together has been fine, we'll have lived together for several months by then. It's FINE. I'm almost 32 years old. I'm not with someone to just date them. I'm in this for the long haul, and I think I know what I'm doing this time around. Keep in mind that Tom & I hadn't even been together longer than 8 months when we got married, so this isn't the same thing.
With that said, I know people will be freaking out about this. I KNOW it because my entire generation thinks you have to wait decades to marry anyone, to even get married at all because we're all so terrified of commitment and the potential of divorce we want to just never take the chance of living in order not to get hurt. I'm not of that ilk. Never was. Never will be. And Peter is the most wonderful partner I've ever had. I love him, but it's not just about love. We know the kind of life we want to build together, and already in our early 30's; we want to get started on building it.
And that's that.
We aren't sure of the definites yet. Probably sometime in December. It will be super-small. Jewish. And what we plan on doing is having a big party later on (kind of like yander and fuzzball21 did) where we can invite ALL our loved ones (that means EVERY ONE of my beloved E-gals ;) to celebrate and have a no-stress fun day. And my brother will, G-d willing, be able to be at the party because by the spring he'll be back from Afghanistan and ready to get his drink and hugs on :)
We'll probably videotape the wedding so that all those we couldn't invite since it'll be pretty much immediate family and a couple of groomsmen/bridesmaids, and their S/O's only there. + 1 Rabbi :-P Then we'll have a lunch at a restaurant and that'll be it. We haven't decided yet if it'll be in NYC or Upstate. Things are still up in the air on that.
All of this is fine with me. It'll be before I start school, so that's a huge stress off my back; not having to plan a giaganto wedding. I had a big, beautiful, Fairy-Tale Princess wedding already. It was great, but I don't need that again. I gave Peter the choice a while ago when we got engaged that because he's never been married before what kind of wedding we'd have. All I care about is that I get to be married to him :) Everything else is pretty much icing on the cake. This is the most low-stress (for both of us, won't be in school studying my ass off ;), pragmatic (health insurance, taxes, etc) way to do it for both of us. I don't want to hear "You're rushing things" or "It's too soon" or "You need time to get to know each other" BS. We've been together a year already, living together has been fine, we'll have lived together for several months by then. It's FINE. I'm almost 32 years old. I'm not with someone to just date them. I'm in this for the long haul, and I think I know what I'm doing this time around. Keep in mind that Tom & I hadn't even been together longer than 8 months when we got married, so this isn't the same thing.
With that said, I know people will be freaking out about this. I KNOW it because my entire generation thinks you have to wait decades to marry anyone, to even get married at all because we're all so terrified of commitment and the potential of divorce we want to just never take the chance of living in order not to get hurt. I'm not of that ilk. Never was. Never will be. And Peter is the most wonderful partner I've ever had. I love him, but it's not just about love. We know the kind of life we want to build together, and already in our early 30's; we want to get started on building it.
And that's that.