he's just not that into you.
i started reading an amazing book tonight titled "he's just not that into you." suddenly i feel like an idiot.
i wasted so much time pursuing guys and making excuses for them. that was time in which i could have started initiated things with someone that maybe was into me, or i could have done something more productive. all these signals indicated that maybe this dude just isnt feelin me, but i didnt catch on. i would make excuses like "he's busy" or "there's just a lot going on. we have conflicting schedules." WHY WAS I SUCH A GUMBYHEAD???
if a guy doesnt call, AT ALL, and you're always the one doing the dialing, hang up and dont call, EVER AGAIN. you're just boosting his ego.
if he does call, but it's few and far between when it does happen, dont do him the justice of answering.
if he's not showing signs of wanting to be intimate, OBVIOUSLY he's not liking what you have to offer.
let him chase you.... dont pounce on the first available guy you see.
yes....... i made all these mistakes. in some situations i was the one that was always calling. in others my guy would call, but only like once every few weeks when he had passed the point of being bored and desperately needed to get laid. and on the subject of letting a guy chase you..... i've almost forgotten what that feels like. there's some sadistic humor in looking back and seeing that i made all these classic mistakes, but thought i was doing nothing wrong. ps - none of this matters now. i just dont have much else to be thinking about at the moment.
the most valuable thing i've learned from this book so far: i am worth someone's time. i'm attractive and sexy and if the man i'm "dating" isnt falling all over himself to be at my feet then he sure isnt worth my time.
i wasted so much time pursuing guys and making excuses for them. that was time in which i could have started initiated things with someone that maybe was into me, or i could have done something more productive. all these signals indicated that maybe this dude just isnt feelin me, but i didnt catch on. i would make excuses like "he's busy" or "there's just a lot going on. we have conflicting schedules." WHY WAS I SUCH A GUMBYHEAD???
if a guy doesnt call, AT ALL, and you're always the one doing the dialing, hang up and dont call, EVER AGAIN. you're just boosting his ego.
if he does call, but it's few and far between when it does happen, dont do him the justice of answering.
if he's not showing signs of wanting to be intimate, OBVIOUSLY he's not liking what you have to offer.
let him chase you.... dont pounce on the first available guy you see.
yes....... i made all these mistakes. in some situations i was the one that was always calling. in others my guy would call, but only like once every few weeks when he had passed the point of being bored and desperately needed to get laid. and on the subject of letting a guy chase you..... i've almost forgotten what that feels like. there's some sadistic humor in looking back and seeing that i made all these classic mistakes, but thought i was doing nothing wrong. ps - none of this matters now. i just dont have much else to be thinking about at the moment.
the most valuable thing i've learned from this book so far: i am worth someone's time. i'm attractive and sexy and if the man i'm "dating" isnt falling all over himself to be at my feet then he sure isnt worth my time.