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I have an old Friend who has struggled with her concept of me, since I went back to work as a mental health nurse. Like most of us, she has been depressed, and her experience of the service was plainly not a good one. I had to say to her last week 'look, nurses are not the enemy' - we are the service; human beings with failings, who certainly
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oh, indeed; some people just naturally feel persecuted, I guess. The conversation was NOT just 'grumpy old Friends having a moan'; one person described how someone she knows who let their canal barge was sued by the people because the lettees had let a rope trail, it caught in the propeller, and then sued the owners because the boat was no longer mechanically sound.
I didn't take her on last night; I'm not doing that with folk anymore. Its too wearying, and life's too short. As far as I'm concerned, its time she sorted it out; I've said my bit privately to her in the past. There are limits to what you can offer someone. She's had a lot of my time and support.
It IS very hard from a friend, I admit; I know this person to have been very active over patients' rights, for MIND, etc, (but she seems to have no idea that WE have, too! Right back over the years, to when David ran everything, and was such a force, nationally. I'm glad to have been part of that. MIND was different then.) I guess she's still emotionally at the point where she believes everything she hears is about her, and thats sometimes very heavy going. What can you say. I guess that colours her values and beliefs. I shouldn't think she really has a hidden agenda. I suppose she's not choosing to believe bad things of us, or put us in the 'politically disastrous' category; its just how she feels about life, and we represent that. It hurts, but you have to try not to be hurt. I've taken her off my e-mail address list, though. My husband is an unsung hero, to anyone who actually knows him.
Apart from that, I have to say, the ecumenical gathering was great; very well attended by people from the village who are non-Quakers. I was asked to read from Advices and Queries (number 8) to start, and happily helped to distribute tea and coffees and biscuits and wash up afterwards.
(I suppose if I have a gripe about That, it was that the non-Friends did seem to expect to be waited on! all the Quakers just got up out of their seats and came to where the coffee and biscuits were! haha; we know about getting a cuppa)
hey-ho! I'm off to earn a crust, and I get to see Dolly and co on Thursday.Yay!
Gordon and Violet are happy with that.
love and blessed be
xxx
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