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Feminist, or hypocrite?

Jun 24, 2005 00:02

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ruth_lawrence June 23 2005, 14:27:55 UTC

I don't do coquette unless I actually am flirting with the man. I almost never cry , or simper, or give a man undue attention or praise.

This comes easily to me: my straight female relatives were/are not inclined to behave in such a way, and most of my male relatives hate it.

The first wave of feminism occured when my grandmothers, both dead at advanced ages, were girls. We have equality under the law.

I wasn't brought up to act like miss cute helpless, and saw no reason for me to take it up later.

shadowitch June 25 2005, 12:57:22 UTC

I think your way is the more sensible, and the more defensible. I can't have my cake and eat it too - either I want equalty or I want to be coddled and cossetted.

ruth_lawrence June 25 2005, 16:18:05 UTC

You can get the cuddling and cossetting with consenting adults you know :-)

It isn't my scene.

ruth_lawrence June 25 2005, 16:18:39 UTC

I mean being cossetted. Because I was sick such a lot it only annoys me.

shadowitch June 25 2005, 16:27:34 UTC

I suppose that could be part of the difference. Because I was never shown any cossetting or affection as a child, perhaps I'm subconsciously seeking it as an adult.

Goodness, psycho-self-analysis at 2.30am. Yuck~!

ruth_lawrence June 25 2005, 17:14:19 UTC

Shocking, innit?

I'm also an eldest child who thought the others were Hers, and that I should be the looker-afterer.

shadowitch June 25 2005, 16:25:58 UTC

The problem with that recipe is, first, find yourself a consenting adult....

Who knows - a few trips to Hush and I might never look back.

ruth_lawrence June 25 2005, 17:15:45 UTC

Throw in Abode, too?

For myself I'm not focussed on sex per se right now. I'm learning soft BDSM, and how to relate better, which feels like the right way to go, for me.

shadowitch June 25 2005, 18:38:28 UTC

I've been slowly edging back to that scene for months now - the experiences I have had in the past have thrilled and excited me and satisfied a need that I can't put into words.

I hope the future brings me more of the same, and even more which is different and new.

ruth_lawrence June 26 2005, 01:25:31 UTC

Would be nice :-)

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