To love or BE loved
So there's guy A. He's nice, charming, has the body of a Greek God, makes you laugh, says all the right things at the right time. When you are with him it feels as though time is standing still for the two of you. You go home and think of how cute that freckle on his chin is. How you love the citrusy smell his after shave lotion (?) leaves on his cheek. When you are with him you can't resist being close to him and when you are without him all you think about is him. You would gladly give up your wants and needs in exchange for his happiness. You can't get enough of him. You *love him.
Then there's guy B. He has all the great qualities, in fact he has better qualities than guy A. For one he isn't an alcoholic and a sex addict and he actually remembers your last name! But you're just not into him. You don't feel that spark. You don't think about him when he's not around. Unlike guy A, he calls you when you are sick. He checks up on how your midterm went. He gives you a ride home when guy A would rather hang out with his friends (aka that hot girl who he is sure to get lucky with if he bats his eyelashes a few more times). His eyes are only for you. He complements you, buys you things. But you barely seem to notice. You brush it off thinking "oh, he is just a friendly person" when deep down inside you know that guy B loves you. You just can't bring yourself to return his affection though because guy A is the one you want.
So who do you choose? *Momma always said, don't be with the one you love. Be with the one who loves you. But is that possible? I know that deep inside we all have this desire to be loved. However, I think that the desire to love significantly outweighs the desire to be loved. As my friend and lover Mili pointed out, it feels much better to love than to be loved. Why is that? What's wrong with guy B??
*Disclaimers: 1. I don't think I described love accurately. I think I described infatuation butttt love is hard to describe so that will have to do!
2. Mother and I don't talk about love.. But other people's moms have said that!
Then there's guy B. He has all the great qualities, in fact he has better qualities than guy A. For one he isn't an alcoholic and a sex addict and he actually remembers your last name! But you're just not into him. You don't feel that spark. You don't think about him when he's not around. Unlike guy A, he calls you when you are sick. He checks up on how your midterm went. He gives you a ride home when guy A would rather hang out with his friends (aka that hot girl who he is sure to get lucky with if he bats his eyelashes a few more times). His eyes are only for you. He complements you, buys you things. But you barely seem to notice. You brush it off thinking "oh, he is just a friendly person" when deep down inside you know that guy B loves you. You just can't bring yourself to return his affection though because guy A is the one you want.
So who do you choose? *Momma always said, don't be with the one you love. Be with the one who loves you. But is that possible? I know that deep inside we all have this desire to be loved. However, I think that the desire to love significantly outweighs the desire to be loved. As my friend and lover Mili pointed out, it feels much better to love than to be loved. Why is that? What's wrong with guy B??
*Disclaimers: 1. I don't think I described love accurately. I think I described infatuation butttt love is hard to describe so that will have to do!
2. Mother and I don't talk about love.. But other people's moms have said that!