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My mother died over ten years ago, and according to her wishes was cremated and a small cross marks where her ashes were placed next to her sister's in Barnstaple Crematorium. There is a large book which the family signed on the occasion of her being interred or whatever the right phrase is. I have never been back to visit the crematorium, partly because I live on the other side of the world now, but even if I did still live in England, I would not go, as my mother's memory and spirit is not in that box, it is in me and lives on in my daughter. I know my sister finds some peace by going to the crematorium occasionally, and I fully respect her needs and wishes to do that, but it is not for me.
Now the crematorium is asking £190 pounds for the upkeep of the page on which my mother's details are inscribed. Why do they need £190 for a page? It's not as if anybody has to look after a page! It's not like paying somebody to care for a headstone in a graveyard, and even then, £190 is bloody expensive. I actually think it is OUTRAGEOUS, and I personally don't think Mum would want her kids to pay it. However there are now all sorts of ugly issues raising their heads. If I don't pay my share my brothers and sisters (2 of each) will have to pay more. Does refusing to pay it make it look like I love my mother less than them? Or don't care about her at all?
I think the crematorium is playing on exactly those kind of emotions to make money.
When I die, no-one is to be out of pocket. Burn me in a bonfire and have a party. If there is any life insurance available, everybody who cares about me must use it to go on a safari.
Bloody hell I'm cross.
Now the crematorium is asking £190 pounds for the upkeep of the page on which my mother's details are inscribed. Why do they need £190 for a page? It's not as if anybody has to look after a page! It's not like paying somebody to care for a headstone in a graveyard, and even then, £190 is bloody expensive. I actually think it is OUTRAGEOUS, and I personally don't think Mum would want her kids to pay it. However there are now all sorts of ugly issues raising their heads. If I don't pay my share my brothers and sisters (2 of each) will have to pay more. Does refusing to pay it make it look like I love my mother less than them? Or don't care about her at all?
I think the crematorium is playing on exactly those kind of emotions to make money.
When I die, no-one is to be out of pocket. Burn me in a bonfire and have a party. If there is any life insurance available, everybody who cares about me must use it to go on a safari.
Bloody hell I'm cross.