How 9/11 forever changed me, or maybe I would have changed anyway.
One month after the horrific 9/11 my job transferred to an east coast ivy-league university. I was going stark raving mad in my new city whose “progressive liberalism” finished in me what 19 pissy Arabs started. I felt like Eve in Eden, ready to bite that serpent on the ass and get kicked out of the liberal utopia hell.
The relocation denied me ( Read more... )
Step 1: A creepy dude does creepy, entitled shit and makes women feel unsafe.
Step 2: The women speak up about it to their partners.
Step 3: It gets written off as “not a big deal” or “he probably didn’t mean it” or “he’s not a bad guy, really.” Any discussion of the bad behavior must immediately be followed by a complete audit of his better qualities or boo-hoo sad thing he’s suffered in the name of “fairness.” Once the camera has moved in and seen him in closeup as a real, human, suffering person, how can you (the object, always an object, as in “objectified,” as in a disembodied set of tits or orifices, or a Trapper Keeper, or a favorite coffee mug or a pet cat) be so cruel as to want to hold him accountable for his actions? Bitches, man.
Step 4: Everyone is worried about hurting creepy dude’s feelings or making it weird for creepy dude. Better yet, everyone is worried about how the other dudes in the friend group will feel if they are called out for enabling creepy dude. Women are worried that if they push the issue, that the entire friend group will side with creepy dude or that they’ll be blamed for causing “drama.” Wouldn’t want someone who covers up for and defends a proto-rapist to have to have sad!feelings, right?
Step 5: Creepy dude creeps on with his creepy self. He’s learned that there are no real (i.e. “disapproval & pushback from dudes and dude society”) consequences to his actions. Women feel creeped out and unsafe. Some of them decide to take a firm stand against creeping and not come to parties anymore. They slowly slide out of the friend group. Some of the woman decide to just quietly put up with it, because they’ve learned that no one will really side with them and it’s easier to go along than to lose one’s entire community.
Possible Step 6: Creepy dude rapes someone. If he does, there’s less than 50% chance that the woman will report it. Why? Could it be that all the people who surround her have taught her that if she speaks up nothing will really come of it anyway? Could it be that she doesn’t trust her friends and the people who love her to have her back on this? I CAN’T IMAGINE WHY. They couldn’t even kick this dude off their weekly trivia team.
Could it be that the authorities, the police, and the court system will treat her like this is something she caused to happen? Worse, will the dude’s history of being creepy come up and, instead of being used as evidence of a pattern of behavior, be used as evidence that the victim tolerated his advances in the past?
Everyone is worried about hurting creepy dude’s feelings or making it weird for creepy dude.
Hell just look at Whoopi Goldberg’s apologist defense of Roman Polanski, "I know it wasn't rape-rape. It was something else but I don't believe it was rape-rape.” Thoughout Whoopi’s argument she never call a 43 years old man for having sex with an unconscious 13 years old girl “rape”. That, my anonymous friend, is rape culture that exist within our civilization. It’s evil and should be destroyed for the sake of civilization.
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