things i want to remember in the memory of my grandpa...
there are certain dramatic events in these recent years that has given me a clear vision of my present and my future. life is a constant struggle and battle. every struggle and battle can be our opportunity to assert ourselves or to give in. when life gets hard or people get mean, we can either accept it and pretend that is our reality. how many times have we told ourselves: people are just asses sometimes, that's the way it works, or humans are just like that. this outlook becomes our reality. i choose another route, i choose to use every struggle and battle as an opportunity to assert myself and MY reality. if i encounter someone that is unkind, i will not choose to respond in meanness; i will brush it off and move on with a smile. i will not generalize this individual's actions to humanity because i want THIS to be MY reality. I want to live in a reality, where people are good, but their actions might fall short of that once in a while. even when my kindness is not well-received or misunderstood by others, i will not assert myself onto them or explain myself to them until they are ready or require it. because kindness is not much without respect, empathy, and understanding.
to independent ladies (like myself ;) and independent gentlemen: we have worked hard for everything we have and for everything that we are. we know we are enough and are complete, we are more than comfortable being single. however, we soon discover that it is harder being in a couple. we are strong and intelligent individuals, but with our significant others, we become lost. we must first find ourselves before we go seek another lover ;) that can clearly see who we are and highlight these assets. it is not hard to be alone, but it is hard to find a relationship that can reflect the beauty you see within yourself and the beauty in the other person. a relationship has gone bad when the individuals in it has become engrossed in the reflection of their beauty or the other's beauty. individuals become jealous, possessive, and obsessive or become indifferent, insensitive, and conceited. it must be a relationship of equal appreciation when the individuals appreciate who they are and what others are. relationships encompasses all human relations between friends, family, and etc..
life is hard because there is criticism and insecurity everywhere in society; there are stereotypes of race, sexual orientations, gender, culture and etc. everywhere. i will not live my life battling these stereotypes neither will i live my life by ignoring these stereotypes. my identity will not be formulated from imaginary stereotypes i have learned from school, books, magazines, movies, and etc.. i will not live my life in oppositions to these stereotypes, but i will SPEAK UP when these stereotypes are imposed on me by individuals i encounter. i will only consider the opinions of people i know to be significant. other people can say and see what they want because despite what they say or see, i will do what i want. i stay true to myself because i like who i am.
this is my vision of who i am and who i want to be in the future
In memory of my grandpa, Dam Lam (1/20-12/07)
a man that lived his life by being kind, generous, and loving.
to independent ladies (like myself ;) and independent gentlemen: we have worked hard for everything we have and for everything that we are. we know we are enough and are complete, we are more than comfortable being single. however, we soon discover that it is harder being in a couple. we are strong and intelligent individuals, but with our significant others, we become lost. we must first find ourselves before we go seek another lover ;) that can clearly see who we are and highlight these assets. it is not hard to be alone, but it is hard to find a relationship that can reflect the beauty you see within yourself and the beauty in the other person. a relationship has gone bad when the individuals in it has become engrossed in the reflection of their beauty or the other's beauty. individuals become jealous, possessive, and obsessive or become indifferent, insensitive, and conceited. it must be a relationship of equal appreciation when the individuals appreciate who they are and what others are. relationships encompasses all human relations between friends, family, and etc..
life is hard because there is criticism and insecurity everywhere in society; there are stereotypes of race, sexual orientations, gender, culture and etc. everywhere. i will not live my life battling these stereotypes neither will i live my life by ignoring these stereotypes. my identity will not be formulated from imaginary stereotypes i have learned from school, books, magazines, movies, and etc.. i will not live my life in oppositions to these stereotypes, but i will SPEAK UP when these stereotypes are imposed on me by individuals i encounter. i will only consider the opinions of people i know to be significant. other people can say and see what they want because despite what they say or see, i will do what i want. i stay true to myself because i like who i am.
this is my vision of who i am and who i want to be in the future
In memory of my grandpa, Dam Lam (1/20-12/07)
a man that lived his life by being kind, generous, and loving.