To my friends' concerned replies to my last posts...
Outside of this current problem (and the stuff that led up to it) I actually have a pretty good relationship with my parents. I don't think I could ever send them to jail for anything less than murder or something equally bad. :( Yeah, I'm super upset at them but it's definitely more about them lying to me than the money because I can always get more money somehow. I just have to wait for what I want, and in the end, that's okay. It sucks to have to save for everything in cash and to wait, but I find that I'm a lot more grounded than other people are and have been through a lot that makes me feel like my perspective is different. I've both lived with lots of money and with absolutely no money and they both can suck.
My parents have made lots of bad decisions because they had terrible parents who did things like beat them or embarrass them in public and let other people abuse them, and the right thing they have done for me is knowing that kind of stuff is unacceptable. They have consequently had a lot of gaps in their lives and parenting otherwise and are really crappy at handling money. As upset as I am at them, they weren't thinking maliciously with the intention to hurt me by using credit cards in my name, they were thinking of not wanting their 2 4 and 5 year old grand-kids to have to live on the streets and trying to figure out how to support them when my brother was being a huge douche and his wife a crazy bitch. So I'm pissed at my brother too for making my parents clean up after him, and for it being at my expense. My dad is also a stroke victim and does a lot of stuff that for some reason makes a lot of sense to him, but doesn't to anyone else.
I know these are a lot of excuses, but I feel like my relationship with my parents is something important to me, and after talking to them they apologized and acknowledged the fact that they could've been there for me more when I needed them, like when I have been stranded in Europe with no money and no place to stay. :p My mother is a stereotypical artist personality, and has no idea how to handle a lot of stuff in her life and never has. My dad is also that kind of up in the clouds kind of personality- I'm really the only person in my family who isn't. They are brilliant at the things they are good at and my mom, for instance, is a counselor for children who are dying and for their families and tries to help them get through their grief. She goes through each day knowing that the people she's helping are going to die anyway, and she still does it. I couldn't hurt her because she was too disorganized to realize my dad wasn't paying a credit card or two.
My dad is involved with suing someone right now, and he's winning so the credit cards will be taken care of with that. I won't have to pay it, as I shouldn't have to. I'm also getting my braces and a new-used car out of it.
I know that doesn't make up for the lying but I told my parents, specifically my dad, that if he EVER does something like this again he's going to be incredibly sorry and that he doesn't even have a clue what he'll lose. I think my words verbatim were, "Dad, you are NOT going to do this ever again to anyone, and if you do you have no idea how sorry you're going to be, or what you'd lose for something so silly in the first place."
I may be embittered at not feeling like I was always taken care of how I needed to be growing up, but my parents have done the best they could given their circumstances. My being angry at my parents doesn't mean I hate them or that they're not worth trying to work things out with even if they were wrong. At least they admitted it and said sorry. It's not only something that is rare for them, but it is rare for the majority of people. They're not the type to pander just to shut me up.
My father has never told me he loves me, rarely hugged me growing up, and very rarely admits he did something wrong so him apologizing is a big deal.
And if for some reason my dad doesn't win his court case? I'll just pay it off and try to build my credit back up. In my profession I can always move to Europe too so if it came to that, I still have options.
I'm glad to know that you guys care about me though. :) Hopefully I'll only have sunshiney posts from now on. On Sunday I have a big audition so hopefully it'll be amaaaaazzing!!!!
Thanks for being good friends!
My parents have made lots of bad decisions because they had terrible parents who did things like beat them or embarrass them in public and let other people abuse them, and the right thing they have done for me is knowing that kind of stuff is unacceptable. They have consequently had a lot of gaps in their lives and parenting otherwise and are really crappy at handling money. As upset as I am at them, they weren't thinking maliciously with the intention to hurt me by using credit cards in my name, they were thinking of not wanting their 2 4 and 5 year old grand-kids to have to live on the streets and trying to figure out how to support them when my brother was being a huge douche and his wife a crazy bitch. So I'm pissed at my brother too for making my parents clean up after him, and for it being at my expense. My dad is also a stroke victim and does a lot of stuff that for some reason makes a lot of sense to him, but doesn't to anyone else.
I know these are a lot of excuses, but I feel like my relationship with my parents is something important to me, and after talking to them they apologized and acknowledged the fact that they could've been there for me more when I needed them, like when I have been stranded in Europe with no money and no place to stay. :p My mother is a stereotypical artist personality, and has no idea how to handle a lot of stuff in her life and never has. My dad is also that kind of up in the clouds kind of personality- I'm really the only person in my family who isn't. They are brilliant at the things they are good at and my mom, for instance, is a counselor for children who are dying and for their families and tries to help them get through their grief. She goes through each day knowing that the people she's helping are going to die anyway, and she still does it. I couldn't hurt her because she was too disorganized to realize my dad wasn't paying a credit card or two.
My dad is involved with suing someone right now, and he's winning so the credit cards will be taken care of with that. I won't have to pay it, as I shouldn't have to. I'm also getting my braces and a new-used car out of it.
I know that doesn't make up for the lying but I told my parents, specifically my dad, that if he EVER does something like this again he's going to be incredibly sorry and that he doesn't even have a clue what he'll lose. I think my words verbatim were, "Dad, you are NOT going to do this ever again to anyone, and if you do you have no idea how sorry you're going to be, or what you'd lose for something so silly in the first place."
I may be embittered at not feeling like I was always taken care of how I needed to be growing up, but my parents have done the best they could given their circumstances. My being angry at my parents doesn't mean I hate them or that they're not worth trying to work things out with even if they were wrong. At least they admitted it and said sorry. It's not only something that is rare for them, but it is rare for the majority of people. They're not the type to pander just to shut me up.
My father has never told me he loves me, rarely hugged me growing up, and very rarely admits he did something wrong so him apologizing is a big deal.
And if for some reason my dad doesn't win his court case? I'll just pay it off and try to build my credit back up. In my profession I can always move to Europe too so if it came to that, I still have options.
I'm glad to know that you guys care about me though. :) Hopefully I'll only have sunshiney posts from now on. On Sunday I have a big audition so hopefully it'll be amaaaaazzing!!!!
Thanks for being good friends!