Family Reunion
Most people have school reunions, we have family ones. They happen almost as rarely - once every three years or so. And they happen separately - dad's family or mum's flat. The last one (with dad's family) was ... well, honest. For the first time, no one hid their emotions.
Why am I writing here about family stuff? Coz there are lots of grown-up kids in my boat. Don't let those who don't care about your heart into your heart. Don't lie to those who care. Don't try to be who you are not. Being who you are and being honest about it is the only way to be a happy family, to have a family. That's okay if they can't take it at first, give them some time, be true. If you have never wanted that job - say so, and go do something you've always wanted to do. If you have spent 10 years in the wrong profession - say so, don't waste another 90 in the same horror. If you have never been the person they thought you are - that happens, be gentle and be who you are. It takes two sides to listen and hear.
Why am I writing here about family stuff? Coz there are lots of grown-up kids in my boat. Don't let those who don't care about your heart into your heart. Don't lie to those who care. Don't try to be who you are not. Being who you are and being honest about it is the only way to be a happy family, to have a family. That's okay if they can't take it at first, give them some time, be true. If you have never wanted that job - say so, and go do something you've always wanted to do. If you have spent 10 years in the wrong profession - say so, don't waste another 90 in the same horror. If you have never been the person they thought you are - that happens, be gentle and be who you are. It takes two sides to listen and hear.