i do believe that the male kryptonite is having a girl who is perfect for them and does thing for them and then losing it bc they take advantage of the fact that a girl will do things for them. then once they lose that person n find out that other girls are not quite the same they want the other person back. and so the cycle goes. guys always think they can get someone better but when reality turns out that they cant they end up going back in the same position that they started.
I haven't been in many relationships but I think that's what makes what I have to say credible. I don't waste my time with losers like the ones you're describing. I don't think of myself as masochistic when it comes to relationships. I've also never been in love before Brian, even though I may not have known it back then. I think people in general need to be more particular before they commit and girls are equally as guilty of this as men are. Some girls who lack self-esteem will go for any guy who pays them the slightest bit of attention. Sarah, I don't think you give yourself enough credit. I think it's pretty clear that you do have a low self-esteem because of the types of guys you choose sometimes. You need to realize that you can afford to pick and choose. Maybe you aren't masochistic, just not picky enough. Obviously someone who tells you you're as high maintenance as "a quadrapalegic with AIDS and cancer" is not somebody mature and respectful enough to deserve you. It takes time to find someone perfect for you and
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The scientific route says it all...monogemy is the name of the game. It's in a male's nature to want to have sex with as many females as he can, as often as he can (I'm quoting from a book here). This often translates into a guy thinking he can do better than his current girlfriend, which can be true. Hell, I'm guilty of it...not proud to say so, but it's there anyway. That's probably the biggest "Kryptonite" rock for guys.
I know we don't talk much, but I must refer you to the book "Why Men Love Bitches". It's exactly about what you're talking about from both sides: why men love high-maintenance women and how to stop taking other people's crap and make quality guys chase you for a change. It absolutely changed my life. And yes, the title is tongue in cheek, haha.
anyway, as you well know, i have been victim to the whole date a guy who then thinks he can do better than you scenario... So okay, I guess I can agree that that's a guy's kryptonite... but i'm not sure i actually sure i believe in the whole kryptonite theory... I think everything is based on trial and error and it's just human nature to want to know what else is out there (as much as it pains me to admit it)...
In my case, i'd have to say my personal kryptonite is all in the saying "good things come to those who wait" because then i think i get so wrapped up in the logic behind the phrase that i settle for not being in a relationship and assume that eventually i'll just magically fall into one, rather than putting myself out there and actually trying to find someone...i don't really know what theory is best... is it best to wait for good things to come? or is it best to keep trying and trying and trying, even if that means getting hurt repeatedly?
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i heart you and miss you...you still have my 08527 shirt lol!
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and yes i have ur shirt!! over winter break i will pay u a visit and give it to u :)
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but as for my personal experiances you gave incredible insight.
this was the greatest question that was brought up and it made me THINK.
love ya
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im up in your neck of the woods more often than you'd think lol...i live maybe 35, 40 mins away from new bruns.
i have to go get that book lol...hope finals are going well for you xox
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anyway, as you well know, i have been victim to the whole date a guy who then thinks he can do better than you scenario... So okay, I guess I can agree that that's a guy's kryptonite... but i'm not sure i actually sure i believe in the whole kryptonite theory... I think everything is based on trial and error and it's just human nature to want to know what else is out there (as much as it pains me to admit it)...
In my case, i'd have to say my personal kryptonite is all in the saying "good things come to those who wait" because then i think i get so wrapped up in the logic behind the phrase that i settle for not being in a relationship and assume that eventually i'll just magically fall into one, rather than putting myself out there and actually trying to find someone...i don't really know what theory is best... is it best to wait for good things to come? or is it best to keep trying and trying and trying, even if that means getting hurt repeatedly?
so, know any good guys for me? ;-)
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