my rant on Lisa
So after today at lunch, can I pretty much say everyone is going to support me in my anti-Lisa-ness. YES I feel bad that she has no friends and that she's so messed up, but I am of the belief that she brought most of it on herself, that she is selfish and spoiled and self-centered and histrionic and needs to wake the fuck up and realize that just because the school will give you extra time on the SAT or let you have a special class cuz you've got learning disabilities, that doesn't mean that the people you meet in life (in REAL life, I should say) will make similar allowances. For example, if she ever gets a job, having hissy fits at work will NOT be excused like they are at school. But that's assuming she ever even graduates, which at this rate looks really unlikely.
For those who missed it, she tried to talk to me today. First, she talked to Katie, who is a SAINT and basically told Lisa that she (Katie) doesn't want to put up with her (Lisa) anymore. Good for Katie. She also told Lisa that any issues between her (Lisa) and me aren't her (Katie's) business. Also, good for her. She's really a good kid. So then Lisa tries to talk to me, but I, being the awesome kid I am (and having much more self control than I used to) didn't say a WORD to her. Which, of course, made her even more upset. She was just standing there crying in my face and telling me that it wasn't her fault, that she just gets so emotional, said things like Gary'd been cheating on me since we started going out, that he'd been using, that he was toying with her emotions, that if I was really her friend I wouldn't be with him in the first place (DUH!)...and I just walked away. She followed, said more, I walked away again. And then, I went to the group, by the library, where we always eat, and she came over, and I was like "Ugh oh no" and she starts going "I'm getting my fucking stuff, I'm just getting my FUCKING stuff." And I just stood there with that sort of "whatever" smile on my face, and she was like, "stop smiling and talk to me you stupid KYKE." Yes, she went there. And it was pretty sad, considering it was in front of ALL of MY friends (none of them are really her friends, or have been for months, so I won't call them OUR friends), a few of whom are Jewish as well. Silly Lisa, because we all know that the best way to INSULT me is to call me a racial slur. Owch! (sarcasm, anyone?) And then she asked if anyone had a phone for her to use, and I said the first words I'd said to her all week, "After that? No." But Elaine, being the nice kid she is (plus she feels sorry for Lisa, since she had no idea of what was going on) let Lisa use her phone, and as she was dialing she mumbled (loud enough for everyone to hear) "I should just burn your fucking house down." So I did the only reasonable thing TO do. I went to the office and reported the threat. And after school my mom and I went to the police station and filed a report. I don't want that crazy bitch getting anywhere near my house. She needs to learn that there are reprecussions and consequences to her actions, that not everyone is going to baby her the way her parents do. That basically, I wouldn't be her "friend" again unless there was a LOT of money involved. Besides, my dad wants to get a restraining order against her.
Tomorrow, we might have "conflict mediation" with the school psychologist, but I insisted that Leslie be there. I plan on telling her flat out that it is over, and that she should stop trying to contact me and that basically she is now friendless. I'm sort of curious to hear how the hell she's going to try to persuade me to be her friend again after today, she really must be stupider than we all thought.
And I love how in her convo with Maggie she was like, "well Alli isn't mad at me but she's too afraid to say so" when I've spoken to Alli about disliking Lisa. So I guess Lisa is right- almost none of my friends are mad at her. They just dislike her in general. No one wants her around, she's an annoyance. She needs to LEAVE and find somewhere where she hasn't burnt all her bridges. She doesn't GRASP the concept of RESPONSIBILITY- taking responsibility for her actions. She isn't friendless because of her bipolar disorder- she's friendless because she decided sex and drugs were more important that friends. Pretty sad. Oh and Katie doesn't like her cuz she smells cuz she doesn't shower enough.
And, as Maggie told her, she needs to get better for HERSELF.
Oh and I think her parents need to smack her a few times. If my kid talked to me the way Lisa talks to her parents, I think I could justify a nice slap across the face. Maybe if Leslie ever told Lisa to shut the fuck up, she'd listen- you know, shock value and all. It's not like Lisa even loves her parents anyways. She's too fucking focused on the fact that she was adopted, she can't even see that THAT MEANS SOMEONE LOVED HER ENOUGH TO TAKE HER IN EVEN THOUGH SHE WASN'T THEIRS. She's ungrateful and probably deserves to have stayed with her crack whore mother, not gotten adopted by loving, giving people that have basically sacrificed their happiness to put up with her. I would never want to be in Leslie and Chuck's shoes, ever. Have a kid who hates me despite the fact that I basically had to PAY to have it? I'd rather be childless forever. They even fucking let her birth mom live in their house during the last month of her pregnancy. That is the kind of love only a parent can give a child. And does Lisa care? No. I have NEVER heard her say anything nice to her parents, ever. She's a BAD SEED and Katie is right in saying that Lisa should NEVER be allowed to reproduce.
Moral of the story is- I love my friends soooo much and I just want you all to know that I seriously appreciate all the support through this. And for those of you who sympathize with Lisa, please don't think I'm a cold, heartless bitch. I was her friend for 3 1/2 years, I let her cry on my shoulder, I let it slide when she made fun of my family for not having money (yeah she used to call me poor), I even forgave her when she told everyone that I had tried to kill myself over Ak, which never EVER happened (ironically, she tried to kill herself over Gary, hypocrite). When NO ONE else liked her, I still spent time with her. I invited her to my birthday even though it meant making a lot of people uncomfortable. I skipped out on a lot of opportunities to have good times with other people because I felt so GUILTY over the Gary thing, I felt like the LEAST I could do was spend time with her. And in regards to Gary, as Maggie said, I couldn't steal something that was already lost. He lost interest in her in APRIL but she would basically threaten suicide whenever he brought breaking-up into the conversation. He even lost his job because she would call him at work and ask him to leave so many times to calm her down, he would sit in the back room of Loard's cleaning her cuts and bandaging them. He did everything he could to help her, and he wasn't getting ANYTHING in return (and I don't mean things like sex, but someone who truly appreciated him and made him feel good about himself and about life in general). I'm not thrilled that the way he and I met was as dramatic and complicated as it was, but it happened, and I refuse to give it up just to appease that insance cracker (Lauren is my hero).
Ok, so my rant is basically done now...I think. I've needed to get all this out for a WHILE, and once more, I have to say to my friends, you guys are seriously the best. If I ever had a fight this bad with any of you, I'd be destroyed, because losing real, close friends hurts. And that is why I ♥ you all.
For those who missed it, she tried to talk to me today. First, she talked to Katie, who is a SAINT and basically told Lisa that she (Katie) doesn't want to put up with her (Lisa) anymore. Good for Katie. She also told Lisa that any issues between her (Lisa) and me aren't her (Katie's) business. Also, good for her. She's really a good kid. So then Lisa tries to talk to me, but I, being the awesome kid I am (and having much more self control than I used to) didn't say a WORD to her. Which, of course, made her even more upset. She was just standing there crying in my face and telling me that it wasn't her fault, that she just gets so emotional, said things like Gary'd been cheating on me since we started going out, that he'd been using, that he was toying with her emotions, that if I was really her friend I wouldn't be with him in the first place (DUH!)...and I just walked away. She followed, said more, I walked away again. And then, I went to the group, by the library, where we always eat, and she came over, and I was like "Ugh oh no" and she starts going "I'm getting my fucking stuff, I'm just getting my FUCKING stuff." And I just stood there with that sort of "whatever" smile on my face, and she was like, "stop smiling and talk to me you stupid KYKE." Yes, she went there. And it was pretty sad, considering it was in front of ALL of MY friends (none of them are really her friends, or have been for months, so I won't call them OUR friends), a few of whom are Jewish as well. Silly Lisa, because we all know that the best way to INSULT me is to call me a racial slur. Owch! (sarcasm, anyone?) And then she asked if anyone had a phone for her to use, and I said the first words I'd said to her all week, "After that? No." But Elaine, being the nice kid she is (plus she feels sorry for Lisa, since she had no idea of what was going on) let Lisa use her phone, and as she was dialing she mumbled (loud enough for everyone to hear) "I should just burn your fucking house down." So I did the only reasonable thing TO do. I went to the office and reported the threat. And after school my mom and I went to the police station and filed a report. I don't want that crazy bitch getting anywhere near my house. She needs to learn that there are reprecussions and consequences to her actions, that not everyone is going to baby her the way her parents do. That basically, I wouldn't be her "friend" again unless there was a LOT of money involved. Besides, my dad wants to get a restraining order against her.
Tomorrow, we might have "conflict mediation" with the school psychologist, but I insisted that Leslie be there. I plan on telling her flat out that it is over, and that she should stop trying to contact me and that basically she is now friendless. I'm sort of curious to hear how the hell she's going to try to persuade me to be her friend again after today, she really must be stupider than we all thought.
And I love how in her convo with Maggie she was like, "well Alli isn't mad at me but she's too afraid to say so" when I've spoken to Alli about disliking Lisa. So I guess Lisa is right- almost none of my friends are mad at her. They just dislike her in general. No one wants her around, she's an annoyance. She needs to LEAVE and find somewhere where she hasn't burnt all her bridges. She doesn't GRASP the concept of RESPONSIBILITY- taking responsibility for her actions. She isn't friendless because of her bipolar disorder- she's friendless because she decided sex and drugs were more important that friends. Pretty sad. Oh and Katie doesn't like her cuz she smells cuz she doesn't shower enough.
And, as Maggie told her, she needs to get better for HERSELF.
Oh and I think her parents need to smack her a few times. If my kid talked to me the way Lisa talks to her parents, I think I could justify a nice slap across the face. Maybe if Leslie ever told Lisa to shut the fuck up, she'd listen- you know, shock value and all. It's not like Lisa even loves her parents anyways. She's too fucking focused on the fact that she was adopted, she can't even see that THAT MEANS SOMEONE LOVED HER ENOUGH TO TAKE HER IN EVEN THOUGH SHE WASN'T THEIRS. She's ungrateful and probably deserves to have stayed with her crack whore mother, not gotten adopted by loving, giving people that have basically sacrificed their happiness to put up with her. I would never want to be in Leslie and Chuck's shoes, ever. Have a kid who hates me despite the fact that I basically had to PAY to have it? I'd rather be childless forever. They even fucking let her birth mom live in their house during the last month of her pregnancy. That is the kind of love only a parent can give a child. And does Lisa care? No. I have NEVER heard her say anything nice to her parents, ever. She's a BAD SEED and Katie is right in saying that Lisa should NEVER be allowed to reproduce.
Moral of the story is- I love my friends soooo much and I just want you all to know that I seriously appreciate all the support through this. And for those of you who sympathize with Lisa, please don't think I'm a cold, heartless bitch. I was her friend for 3 1/2 years, I let her cry on my shoulder, I let it slide when she made fun of my family for not having money (yeah she used to call me poor), I even forgave her when she told everyone that I had tried to kill myself over Ak, which never EVER happened (ironically, she tried to kill herself over Gary, hypocrite). When NO ONE else liked her, I still spent time with her. I invited her to my birthday even though it meant making a lot of people uncomfortable. I skipped out on a lot of opportunities to have good times with other people because I felt so GUILTY over the Gary thing, I felt like the LEAST I could do was spend time with her. And in regards to Gary, as Maggie said, I couldn't steal something that was already lost. He lost interest in her in APRIL but she would basically threaten suicide whenever he brought breaking-up into the conversation. He even lost his job because she would call him at work and ask him to leave so many times to calm her down, he would sit in the back room of Loard's cleaning her cuts and bandaging them. He did everything he could to help her, and he wasn't getting ANYTHING in return (and I don't mean things like sex, but someone who truly appreciated him and made him feel good about himself and about life in general). I'm not thrilled that the way he and I met was as dramatic and complicated as it was, but it happened, and I refuse to give it up just to appease that insance cracker (Lauren is my hero).
Ok, so my rant is basically done now...I think. I've needed to get all this out for a WHILE, and once more, I have to say to my friends, you guys are seriously the best. If I ever had a fight this bad with any of you, I'd be destroyed, because losing real, close friends hurts. And that is why I ♥ you all.