Life isn't fair
No doubt if I ask to anyone if life is fair, a lot of people will agree with me and say that it isn't fair. Strangely enough, life is rarely being fair about things. Even when it is, you will call it unfair because it is playing out for the worst for you.
There are a lot of problems in this world that you'd like to blame someone, or something, for. But doing that isn't always as easy as it sounds. Sure it is easy to point a finger at someone and say that it is their fault, but that won't really help out a lot. Most of the time, there is no real person to point the finger at, there isn't an actual person there who you can blame for something bad that happens in your life (for example, the death of a loved one or just plain shitty weather). I think most people then turn to blaming life for it being a shitty thing in the first place, just so that you will have something to blame.
I am not just talking about other people, but myself as well. It is easy to blame such an innevitable thing such as life, simply because it won't talk back and it is always there to come and haunt you. It is easy to blame something bad on the fact that life isn't fair. But when is life fair? That is a question that can be answered differently by everyone, so there is no real solid answer for this. So if you are reading this, you might want to think to yourself: when exactly is life fair?
I tend to blame life for a lot of things: from the dumb things such as being caught in a massive storm when you are outside and get soaked to the bone, to the more serious matter of actual feelings towards an either. And when I mean feelings I don't just mean your relationship with your friends, but that little thing called 'love' which we all love and hate at the same time.
In the first place, no matter who you are, feelings are a difficult thing to accept. It may sound easy, and sometimes it is easier for other people, to just say that they love someone. The word love is used way too easily nowadays in my opinion. People tend to say it when they don't really feel that much for the other yet, but hope that saying it that that feeling will change into something more. I think that it is only safe to say that you love someone when:
- You want to be with them all the time
- You want to talk to them
- You can't stop thinking about them
- You cannot help but smile and feel all warm and happy on the inside when you talk about that person
Then, I think it is safe to say that you actually love someone.
Love isn't all well and good though. On one hand, it makes us feel special and happy when you do have feelings, but at the same time it can hurt terribly when the person you have feelings for doesn't return them to you, or your feelings for someone are being criticised by the people close to you such as your friends and family.
The downside of feelings is that you really have no control over them. They are just there, having grown over time until they are at this stage where you think it is safe to say you love someone. Having no control over them might not be a bad thing if your feelings are returned, but they are when the other people close to you, do not support your decision and your feelings for the other. That makes it harder because then, no doubt, you will get the feeling you will have to choose, the one you love or your friends and family.
Even when everything seems hopeless, there are always a few people around you that will accept you for who you are and support your decisions. Just confide in those people and trust that everything will be just fine, as long as you got someone supporting you by your side.
Rock on!
-serenitiv-
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