a few things
some common topics of interest that have come up repeatedly among several different people that i would kindly like to bring to a screeching halt.
1. i don't want to talk to most people about the divorce cause, well frankly none of you can understand, you've never been there you haven't done it. I want advice and help from people who have
2. The second reason i'm not talking to really anyone about it is because you don't listen well. i'm sick and tired of being berated about this ever time it happens. you've already said "i told you so" and pointed out that i'm an idiot for not thinking the way you do and that i'm entirely reckless and you few are the only one capable of making my decisions for me and if i don't agree with you you get pissed. Sorry i'm not you i'll make my own damn mistakes and i'm sick and fucking tired of being lectured about how i'm wrong for not thinking the way you few do. Friends should be able to listen to one anothers anguish when necessary but apparently i haven't found many capable of that.
3. I have feelings. i know this is a strange concept but its true. i have feelings and i feel things and take risks so that i can experience new feelings. some times i win sometimes i lose. its a part of life, its called learning. Just because some of you are too afraid to do this doesn't mean that i should too and you should really stop trying to convnice me to hide from the world. its there its a part of life and i want to be a part of it. This means i'll get hurt and sometimes i'll be happy and sometimes i'll be mad, as with the rest of you. Part of being a friend is being there during all of these and attempting to be understanding.
4. I'M NOT TELEPATHIC. if you don't say things to me i'm not going to know. I won't know if you need someone to listen to you if you don't say something...SO STOP BEING PISSED AT ME FOR NOT KNOWING SOMETHING IS WRONG. if i can tell something is up and you keep telling me no there isn't, i'm going to drop the subject cause obviously its something you want to deal with on your own. This means your not allowed to be ticked at me for not being supportive for something i don't know exists.
5. I understand certain facts in reality. If you can't grasp them thats your problem. I'm not going to keep repeating myself to you few. I also expect that you stop bitching about how horrible i am because i know this. Sorry but if you have a nickle and something costs a dime you can't afford it. this is a fact, stop being pissed at me for it. A red light means stop, its not my fucking fault it means stop...i know what it means and its not my problem that its an inconvience to you...its a fact of the world...lights turn red.
6. Stop being mad at me for the few things that i have that you may not. I've worked for what i have, yes i have loans and i have used some of them to help me get things, like my education, all of this i will pay back, and i'm not upset about it and i don't care if everyone of you has less loans than me. i had different needs so i took more loans, big frigging deal. Its a student loan and i'm about to incur a lot more of those.
7. I would kindly appreciate it if you few who don't have loans, or a lot less than i do, stop bitching at me for how many loans i have...its my problem not yours. you don't have to pay them back i do so get over it.
8. I have a lot of life experience in some matters and not in others, get over it. I understand that most people i know have suffered a lot of hardships, few people in todays world haven't. You need to learn to move on with life and get over things that happened when you were 2 years old. that was 20+/- years ago...there is nothing you can do about it. Learn from the experience and move on. I would also really appreciate it if you few would stop belittling my experiences just because i'm not still traumatized by it doesn't mean it didn't make a big impact on my life and that i'm not constantly reminded of things that have happened. i don't forget...but i learn from them and how to avoid situations that caused it and how to continue LIVING despite the fact that it is in my memory.
if ya'll could really get off my FUCKING CASE about some of this shit it would be greatly appreciated. The subtle snide comments are getting really freaking old too. I'm really fed up with this...and really ticked off. I swear some of you are trying to make life as difficult as humanly possible. Just remember that your not perfect either and i don't lecture you about mistakes you've made, even when you make the same on repeatedly...and i always listen to you as you cry on the phone every time you do it. Friendships do have many fights and make ups its how we learn what makes each other tick and who each other is. Well here is some of what really makes me tick. Please stop it...if you didn't realize ya'll were doing it you should now.
1. i don't want to talk to most people about the divorce cause, well frankly none of you can understand, you've never been there you haven't done it. I want advice and help from people who have
2. The second reason i'm not talking to really anyone about it is because you don't listen well. i'm sick and tired of being berated about this ever time it happens. you've already said "i told you so" and pointed out that i'm an idiot for not thinking the way you do and that i'm entirely reckless and you few are the only one capable of making my decisions for me and if i don't agree with you you get pissed. Sorry i'm not you i'll make my own damn mistakes and i'm sick and fucking tired of being lectured about how i'm wrong for not thinking the way you few do. Friends should be able to listen to one anothers anguish when necessary but apparently i haven't found many capable of that.
3. I have feelings. i know this is a strange concept but its true. i have feelings and i feel things and take risks so that i can experience new feelings. some times i win sometimes i lose. its a part of life, its called learning. Just because some of you are too afraid to do this doesn't mean that i should too and you should really stop trying to convnice me to hide from the world. its there its a part of life and i want to be a part of it. This means i'll get hurt and sometimes i'll be happy and sometimes i'll be mad, as with the rest of you. Part of being a friend is being there during all of these and attempting to be understanding.
4. I'M NOT TELEPATHIC. if you don't say things to me i'm not going to know. I won't know if you need someone to listen to you if you don't say something...SO STOP BEING PISSED AT ME FOR NOT KNOWING SOMETHING IS WRONG. if i can tell something is up and you keep telling me no there isn't, i'm going to drop the subject cause obviously its something you want to deal with on your own. This means your not allowed to be ticked at me for not being supportive for something i don't know exists.
5. I understand certain facts in reality. If you can't grasp them thats your problem. I'm not going to keep repeating myself to you few. I also expect that you stop bitching about how horrible i am because i know this. Sorry but if you have a nickle and something costs a dime you can't afford it. this is a fact, stop being pissed at me for it. A red light means stop, its not my fucking fault it means stop...i know what it means and its not my problem that its an inconvience to you...its a fact of the world...lights turn red.
6. Stop being mad at me for the few things that i have that you may not. I've worked for what i have, yes i have loans and i have used some of them to help me get things, like my education, all of this i will pay back, and i'm not upset about it and i don't care if everyone of you has less loans than me. i had different needs so i took more loans, big frigging deal. Its a student loan and i'm about to incur a lot more of those.
7. I would kindly appreciate it if you few who don't have loans, or a lot less than i do, stop bitching at me for how many loans i have...its my problem not yours. you don't have to pay them back i do so get over it.
8. I have a lot of life experience in some matters and not in others, get over it. I understand that most people i know have suffered a lot of hardships, few people in todays world haven't. You need to learn to move on with life and get over things that happened when you were 2 years old. that was 20+/- years ago...there is nothing you can do about it. Learn from the experience and move on. I would also really appreciate it if you few would stop belittling my experiences just because i'm not still traumatized by it doesn't mean it didn't make a big impact on my life and that i'm not constantly reminded of things that have happened. i don't forget...but i learn from them and how to avoid situations that caused it and how to continue LIVING despite the fact that it is in my memory.
if ya'll could really get off my FUCKING CASE about some of this shit it would be greatly appreciated. The subtle snide comments are getting really freaking old too. I'm really fed up with this...and really ticked off. I swear some of you are trying to make life as difficult as humanly possible. Just remember that your not perfect either and i don't lecture you about mistakes you've made, even when you make the same on repeatedly...and i always listen to you as you cry on the phone every time you do it. Friendships do have many fights and make ups its how we learn what makes each other tick and who each other is. Well here is some of what really makes me tick. Please stop it...if you didn't realize ya'll were doing it you should now.