Just one note . . . I do add people without commenting. My f-list is a mix of people I like to read and people I trust to see my own f-locked posts . . . and the comments in them. It's really silly that LJ makes it the same thing. (I'm aware that you can use "default view" and only read part of your f-list, but that's the wrong way round for my tastes.) What I'm really saying when I add someone is not "I am collecting friends" or even "I expect you to friend me back" but "I like what you post." And I started off being a very prolific commenter (for maybe a year I didn't have an account--someone finally gave me a code)--both when I was anonymous and after I got this account, some people have been freaked by getting comments from me. So I've come to think of the comments as the imposition, not the friending '-) I make fewer of them now, but I still tend to respond to points of view. After all, I do this for the exchanges with other humans, not as some sort of facetime.
I sympathize with your feeling you have to friends-lock stuff, but your mother alone is reason to do so. I f-lock entries that have pics of me because I have my LJ set to be Google-indexed. But it's different for all of us.
I sympathize with your feeling you have to friends-lock stuff, but your mother alone is reason to do so. I f-lock entries that have pics of me because I have my LJ set to be Google-indexed. But it's different for all of us.
Frith,
M
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