It's long. Sorry. o_o;
I've been wondering to myself about something for the last few days. Does your past experiences dictate who you are? Do they give you your habits, your fears, your strengths, your weaknesses? Does it dictate what kind of friend you are? What kind of lover? Does the past define who you are as a person?
Really, I don't think that it does.
The past is the past. It doesn't really matter now. It's done. It's over. There's nothing you can do about it except learn and become stronger from the experiences. There are good experineces and bad experiences that will live forever in your memory. Have you ever noticed how there's many people who just look at the bad? They look back, mull, and become bitter from it.
I think that there's a reason for everything that happens in your life. Even if it seems pointless and cruel, I wholeheartedly believe that there is a reason. A person's life can't just be peaches and cream. If it were, a person would not be able to appreciate good things that happen to them. A person's life can't be all fish heads and castor oil, either. If it were, then that person would probably just end up killing themselves or hating everyone and killing someone else.
There are good points and bad points in everyones' past. Everybody has something they can be bitter about. Everyone has hardships that must be overcome. Some people don't try to overcome them, though. Some people use their past experiences as an excuse for how they are now.
So, you don't want to become peoples' friends because you were dumped by friends in your past? Haven't we all been? So, you don't want to love, because that same love caused you hurt before? Love hurts. It's worth it, though. So, you were abused as a kid? It doesn't mean you have to turn around and abuse the people you're supposed to love. You can break the cycle. You've just got to be strong enough to do it.
Life takes strength. It takes strength of will, strength of heart, strength of spirit. If you lack strength, then you will miss out on what life can offer you. You won't be able to see all the good that is out there, if you just concentrate on the bad.
I know that I don't have the most glamorous life in the world. I work at Walgreen's. I'm 23, and I still live with my mother. I don't have a car. I don't have a lot of friends. I still think life is beautiful, though. You know why? I know what the world has to offer. I've tried the whole pessimistic, 'life sucks' mantra, and that's just not a way to live. Sure, I had no friends at all when I was a kid. Sure, I was abused throughout a bulk of my childhood. Sure, I'm poor. Sure, I'll never have the same opportunities as some people have. Does that mean life has to suck? No. It's all about perspective.
You choose how you're going to see the world. You choose to see the good or the bad in people. You choose how you're going to react to things that have happened. It's all about you. You can go around and blame everyone in the world for your hardships. You can say nobody likes you because they're all assholes. You can say you can't keep a job because the man's against you. You can blame so many people for things that hold you back.
Whereas I do believe that some things can't be controlled, I do believe that anything is acheivable if you want them to happen. In the end, the finger that you point should be directed to the person in the mirror. Take responsibility. Learn from the past. Learn from what decisions you made, so you won't make wrong ones again.
Life is a journey people. It's a journey that's supposed to be enjoyed. Yes, there are struggles. Yes, there is pain. What good journey doesn't have its rough spots? What journey worth taking is easy? The point is, you just can't let the bad things get to you. Hold onto the good that you find on your path. Remember that you're not alone. There's always someone out there who loves you, even if it seems that your back is against the wall. Most importantly, love yourself. If you can be comfortable in your own skin, then the world will be so much better.
Hope you enjoyed my pointless, long post. ^_^
Really, I don't think that it does.
The past is the past. It doesn't really matter now. It's done. It's over. There's nothing you can do about it except learn and become stronger from the experiences. There are good experineces and bad experiences that will live forever in your memory. Have you ever noticed how there's many people who just look at the bad? They look back, mull, and become bitter from it.
I think that there's a reason for everything that happens in your life. Even if it seems pointless and cruel, I wholeheartedly believe that there is a reason. A person's life can't just be peaches and cream. If it were, a person would not be able to appreciate good things that happen to them. A person's life can't be all fish heads and castor oil, either. If it were, then that person would probably just end up killing themselves or hating everyone and killing someone else.
There are good points and bad points in everyones' past. Everybody has something they can be bitter about. Everyone has hardships that must be overcome. Some people don't try to overcome them, though. Some people use their past experiences as an excuse for how they are now.
So, you don't want to become peoples' friends because you were dumped by friends in your past? Haven't we all been? So, you don't want to love, because that same love caused you hurt before? Love hurts. It's worth it, though. So, you were abused as a kid? It doesn't mean you have to turn around and abuse the people you're supposed to love. You can break the cycle. You've just got to be strong enough to do it.
Life takes strength. It takes strength of will, strength of heart, strength of spirit. If you lack strength, then you will miss out on what life can offer you. You won't be able to see all the good that is out there, if you just concentrate on the bad.
I know that I don't have the most glamorous life in the world. I work at Walgreen's. I'm 23, and I still live with my mother. I don't have a car. I don't have a lot of friends. I still think life is beautiful, though. You know why? I know what the world has to offer. I've tried the whole pessimistic, 'life sucks' mantra, and that's just not a way to live. Sure, I had no friends at all when I was a kid. Sure, I was abused throughout a bulk of my childhood. Sure, I'm poor. Sure, I'll never have the same opportunities as some people have. Does that mean life has to suck? No. It's all about perspective.
You choose how you're going to see the world. You choose to see the good or the bad in people. You choose how you're going to react to things that have happened. It's all about you. You can go around and blame everyone in the world for your hardships. You can say nobody likes you because they're all assholes. You can say you can't keep a job because the man's against you. You can blame so many people for things that hold you back.
Whereas I do believe that some things can't be controlled, I do believe that anything is acheivable if you want them to happen. In the end, the finger that you point should be directed to the person in the mirror. Take responsibility. Learn from the past. Learn from what decisions you made, so you won't make wrong ones again.
Life is a journey people. It's a journey that's supposed to be enjoyed. Yes, there are struggles. Yes, there is pain. What good journey doesn't have its rough spots? What journey worth taking is easy? The point is, you just can't let the bad things get to you. Hold onto the good that you find on your path. Remember that you're not alone. There's always someone out there who loves you, even if it seems that your back is against the wall. Most importantly, love yourself. If you can be comfortable in your own skin, then the world will be so much better.
Hope you enjoyed my pointless, long post. ^_^