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Click to viewThis is so helpful to me. I've watched it three times and want to start practicing lie spotting. Maybe in bars? Definitely in the office.
"The power of a lie emerges when someone agrees to be lied to."
"If you don't want to be deceived, you have to know: what is it that you're hungry for?"
"We all kinda wish we were better husbands, better wives, smarter, more powerful...."
Lying tries to bridge that gap between what we wish we were and what we're really like. "And boy are we willing to fill in those gaps with lies."
They will prey on what you're hungry for. They will sniff it out, and use it against you. To be aware of what you're hungry for is the first and best defense.
I was hungry for a committed relationship. I wanted to believe that I was special, that I was loved, that I was worthy of commitment and fidelity, that I was beautiful and lovable.
It is laughable to me now that I ever believed that he was my "boyfriend." That I ever genuinely believed that that was what was going on. I miss the open, loving, non-judgmental heart, before I was so thoroughly betrayed. The generosity of always offering the benefit of the doubt. The trust and belief in the goodness and honesty of others. But I don't miss the hapless gullibility.