Posts like these are why I love you. Because what you say is so true. I wish people weren't so damned rigid in their thinking - there'd be far less arguments.
Though I'd like to add a #5 to your list - irrational ≠ invalid. No opinion is 'less than' because the person's emotions are obvious in the delivery of it, not in a space where four-fifths of the people will be dealing with stuff that they can't just 'turn off'.
And in the interest of solidarity:
I'm a single person; I'm a woman who helps support her mother through stress; I received welfare the past five years to support myself as I'm disabled and unable to work; I am currently homeless and living in one room with my mother at my [step]sister's house; I don't want or need a 'sexual partner' in my life and am uninterested in marriage or civil union; I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, borderline OCD, anxiety issues, PTSD, and mild Aspergers, am in recovery from self-harm and substance abuse, and am a survivor of child abuse, rape, domestic abuse and harassment; I'm a college dropout; I'm a textual pornographer, occasionally artist, and occasionally a journaler.
Though I'd like to add a #5 to your list - irrational ≠ invalid. No opinion is 'less than' because the person's emotions are obvious in the delivery of it, not in a space where four-fifths of the people will be dealing with stuff that they can't just 'turn off'.
Dismissing and/or erasing people because what they say comes from a place of emotion and might not be expressed in the best possible way just pisses me off. Pisses me off pretty much more than anything else in debate/discussion.
When I see people so upset and hurt and frustrated by the VVC stuff, or any other discussion of its ilk - I salute anyone who can put their raw emotions from the negativity surrounding that in a box and post something without that rage, hurt and frustration leeching in. But they aren't most people and I feel such rage every time someone is dismissed because their emotions leech in. You can't have this kind of discussion without there being anger, hurt, etc.
Though I'd like to add a #5 to your list - irrational ≠ invalid. No opinion is 'less than' because the person's emotions are obvious in the delivery of it, not in a space where four-fifths of the people will be dealing with stuff that they can't just 'turn off'.
And in the interest of solidarity:
I'm a single person; I'm a woman who helps support her mother through stress; I received welfare the past five years to support myself as I'm disabled and unable to work; I am currently homeless and living in one room with my mother at my [step]sister's house; I don't want or need a 'sexual partner' in my life and am uninterested in marriage or civil union; I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, borderline OCD, anxiety issues, PTSD, and mild Aspergers, am in recovery from self-harm and substance abuse, and am a survivor of child abuse, rape, domestic abuse and harassment; I'm a college dropout; I'm a textual pornographer, occasionally artist, and occasionally a journaler.
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Though I'd like to add a #5 to your list - irrational ≠ invalid. No opinion is 'less than' because the person's emotions are obvious in the delivery of it, not in a space where four-fifths of the people will be dealing with stuff that they can't just 'turn off'.
That's a good point to make.
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Dismissing and/or erasing people because what they say comes from a place of emotion and might not be expressed in the best possible way just pisses me off. Pisses me off pretty much more than anything else in debate/discussion.
When I see people so upset and hurt and frustrated by the VVC stuff, or any other discussion of its ilk - I salute anyone who can put their raw emotions from the negativity surrounding that in a box and post something without that rage, hurt and frustration leeching in. But they aren't most people and I feel such rage every time someone is dismissed because their emotions leech in. You can't have this kind of discussion without there being anger, hurt, etc.
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