my thoughts on ms.molly's post....

[bella_rivolta]

while i seriously doubt that melanie (my therapist) would ever attempt physical touch with me (she's way too new at this for that), there are times when i want her to, and know that i could never ask

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To begin with...

[be4u]

These feelings do NOT make you a freak. In fact, you'd be surprised how very common they are, and how many other women (and men) feel this way! I've been in a 12 step program (Al-Anon) for 16 years, and it's very common to be "semi-adopted" by serogate moms, dads, and parents, because most if not all of us come from suck fucked up families, yet that need to be nurtured and loved never goes away. In fact, the healthier we get, the more pronounced that void becomes.

I understand that feeling of wanting "mom vibes" from someone, almost anyone. I take them where I can :) And age isn't always a factor...sometimes I get mom vibes from friends who are younger than I am, they just have the ability to be caring and nurturing.

It's something my own mother never had...because she never got it herself. I understand and accept that, but that knowledge doesn't remove my need for it. I've just had to accept that I will NEVER get it from her, and to stop trying.

As for adding me to your flist, I would be honored. I'll even add you first, lol! I do deal with a wide variety of subjects, many requiring an open and non-judgemental mind (which I'm thinking you have). And my life is pretty fucked up right now. And I swear a lot.

But if you can hang with all that...let's git-r-done :)