Dilemma
I have a dilemma. Or at least, a thing where I need someone to tell me that doing what I want to do is fine and I shouldn't feel obligated to do the other thing.
See, a couple of months ago my cousin got engaged and her wedding will be in March in Wales. I hadn't planned on a trip to the UK outside of Worldcon next year so I didn't have it in my budget but my parents talked me into thinking about going.
Note, I haven't formally accepted an invitation or bought flights yet.
At the weekend I was chatting with Best Friend in America and we got onto the subject of how long it's been since we actually met up (four years!) and how much she enjoyed her last visit up here. End result, she's suggested that she and her husband and Baby Z could come up to visit in me in the spring. Which would be awesome because I've only really met BFiA's hubby at their wedding and Baby Z will be one in February and I really want to meet my almost!neice while she's still tiny and adorable.
(She's the cutest baby in the history of babies, guys. I'm not kidding, this child is *beautiful* and smiley and I want to snorgle her so badly.)
So, dilemma. I don't have enough vacation to take time off for both the wedding and my friend's visit and if BFiA drags her family up here I don't want to be at work all day. I want to spend time with them and cuddle Baby Z and natter with my best friend and go on trips to the beach even though it's going to be cold and blustery.
But my family kind of expects me to be in England for this wedding.
If I pick my best friend, I've got a couple of thousand dollas back in my savings (ugh, just the though of how expensive the wedding trip would be makes me cry - hotels and flights and presents and clothes and argh) and I get to see my beautiful neice while she's still tiny.
If I pick the wedding, my family will be happy.
Someone weigh in with an opinion here. Am I monumentally selfish to prioritise my best friend over my cousin?
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See, a couple of months ago my cousin got engaged and her wedding will be in March in Wales. I hadn't planned on a trip to the UK outside of Worldcon next year so I didn't have it in my budget but my parents talked me into thinking about going.
Note, I haven't formally accepted an invitation or bought flights yet.
At the weekend I was chatting with Best Friend in America and we got onto the subject of how long it's been since we actually met up (four years!) and how much she enjoyed her last visit up here. End result, she's suggested that she and her husband and Baby Z could come up to visit in me in the spring. Which would be awesome because I've only really met BFiA's hubby at their wedding and Baby Z will be one in February and I really want to meet my almost!neice while she's still tiny and adorable.
(She's the cutest baby in the history of babies, guys. I'm not kidding, this child is *beautiful* and smiley and I want to snorgle her so badly.)
So, dilemma. I don't have enough vacation to take time off for both the wedding and my friend's visit and if BFiA drags her family up here I don't want to be at work all day. I want to spend time with them and cuddle Baby Z and natter with my best friend and go on trips to the beach even though it's going to be cold and blustery.
But my family kind of expects me to be in England for this wedding.
If I pick my best friend, I've got a couple of thousand dollas back in my savings (ugh, just the though of how expensive the wedding trip would be makes me cry - hotels and flights and presents and clothes and argh) and I get to see my beautiful neice while she's still tiny.
If I pick the wedding, my family will be happy.
Someone weigh in with an opinion here. Am I monumentally selfish to prioritise my best friend over my cousin?
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