I find myself more gripped than I should be by the question of why it upsets your mother to find you up earlier than she'd learned to think was your "usual" time to get up. My own mother has gone through phases where she thought I was incapable of getting myself out of bed on time and would come knock on the door to "wake me up," not seeing the light was already on in my room. (Of course, there were a few occasions when I did oversleep and that knock on the door turned out to be something of a lifesaver -- which undercut my premise that I was an adult who didn't need my mother waking me up in the morning.) She's trying to be helpful, but in ways which indicate a lack of trust in my own abilities to navigate adult life or find solutions to my own problems.
Alternately, she's used to being up well before you and enjoying that quiet private time in the morning before you get up, and aggravated to find you cutting into that time. But this is me speaking as an introvert whose working hours now overlap so closely with my mother's that the morning rush to get ready for work is the only time I can reliably expect to have the house to myself.
Alternately, she's used to being up well before you and enjoying that quiet private time in the morning before you get up, and aggravated to find you cutting into that time. But this is me speaking as an introvert whose working hours now overlap so closely with my mother's that the morning rush to get ready for work is the only time I can reliably expect to have the house to myself.
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