Girls and Gaming, an Epiphany about
It's been a couple weeks since I've posted anything. I really had my stuff together one Friday and I was actually able to get a video posted. And then, not so much the past couple Fridays, and possibly not this Friday either.
But, I had an epiphany of sorts while I was cooking dinner; thinking of joking with a friend of mine that I'd "lost" my husband to ME3 again, with the new multiplayer DLC that came out today. Especially since he's started playing with other people on Xbox live and really enjoys it.
And then it hit me, that's most likely why girls rag on their boyfriends who play video games. They don't want to have to compete with anyone or anything for their boyfriend's attention; especially young girls, or when the relationship is new. I've never had to worry much about that, as my husband and I both enjoy playing games, and will often play together. And we have the benefit of an 8 year relationship, which wouldn't have lasted that long if I was being ignored in favor of video games anyway.
If I need something, Adam will put the controller down and come help me. And if I want to spend time with him, then I'll I have to do is say "Hey, sweetheart, I'd like some time alone with you tonight." And he's more than happy to oblige. And if he has plans, all he has to do is say so; because I'm very capable of finding something to do on my own. I don't need him to pay attention to me 24/7; and I honestly think that could get boring very quickly. I also know how to get his attention, if I should happen to want him right then for a little bit of fun.
I think this likely extends into tabletop gaming, especially if you are inviting other people over, or going out to play and your girlfriend is not part of the group, though I haven't seen it as much as as I've seen girls harping on how stupid it is that their boyfriend *still* plays video games and should have outgrown them by now.