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Well, since everyone else seems to want to put their two cents in, heres mine:
First let me just say that the "joke" everyone is referencing was done in horribly bad taste and was allowed to get far to far out of hand. What's more, at least the two main parties involved seem to recognize at least the second fact in hindsight. Now, a few words for a few people.
DISCLAIMER:The content of the following lines very well may offend a few people or cause them to become upset. READ AT YOUR OWN RISK! If you feel that you cannot handle hearing what I have to say without turing this into a flame war or generally causing drama, just don't read it. To that end, Russel I will say in advance that I doubt you will be insulted by what I have to say to you (specifically to you... I don't know how you'll feel about what I have to say to everyone else) and would prefer if you would read at least the next 2 paragraphs.
Licensing agreement: You affirm that by continuing to read this post that you understand that there is a risk of being upset by it's contents. Furthermore, you affirm that before reply to this post you, if you are upset or feel insulted by it, you will allow a proper amount of "cool down" time before replying. If you do not agree to the terms and conditions set forth in this agreement you are obligated to discontinue the reading of this post. Failure to comply with the terms of this agreement will result in your post likely being deleted, or at the very least remaining screened for all time and since I do not make it a habit of moderating my journal I feel it appropriate to inform everyone in advance.
To Russel: Out of everyone involved in last nights events, you are only person who came out of it with more respect from me than they had going in. Of everyone involved you were one of the only ones who recognized straight away that this had already gone to far and needed to go no further and you admitted that perhaps this joke had been a bit of a bad idea, or at least letting it go so far wasn't so hot an idea and for that I say thank you. I do, however, fear that as a result of this you and I may see each other even less than we do already. I guess we'll see how this all pans out as the debris is still falling.
To Britni: Not that this means very much coming from someone you don't even know, but I have a great deal of respect for any person who can do what you did last night for the very same reasons as I stated in the post to Russel.
To Amanda: I, first of all, would like to give you my most sincere and heart-felt appology for last night. I could try to explain why I said what I said, by why bother? It's not really all that important at the end of the day. What is important is that you understand that I do indeed value your friendship and that I regret that things turned out the way they did. Again, I am sorry.
To Chaela: First off, I once again encourage you to get your facts straight before you begin bearing your teeth at me. Just as before, rather than attempting to resolve the situation you simply seem to be content with being angry and thats fine. You know how to find me if you want to talk, not that I expect that you want to. As for why I am angry, if you care, understand that I do not like being drug into the middle of things and I like being lied to even less. As far as I'm concerned and until I hear otherwise, I can easily assume that you were part of the "group" that decided to let this joke go on the way it did. And, going on that assumption, you essentially lied to me as WELL as dragging me into this load of shit.
As for your claim that you only IMed me because I was the first one on your buddylist, I don't buy it. And even so, you picked me because I am her boyfriend. Plain and simple. This whole "oh you just misunderstood my intentions" crap is just that. Crap. Conciously or unconciously it was because of the fact that she is my girlfriend and you wanted to bitch about her. Add on to that the fact that you KNEW how I would react and it just seems silly that you would IM me about that and expect me to just nod. You KNEW I would try and figure out what was going on and you KNEW I would try and analyze the situation. How do I know you knew? Because thats how I always react. Always. Unless I'm told that the person really doesn't want my opinion on the situation and just needs to talk I will ALWAYS do that. It's just how I am. And you know that. You know that because, like you said, you've been my friend since before Nessa and I got together.
First let me just say that the "joke" everyone is referencing was done in horribly bad taste and was allowed to get far to far out of hand. What's more, at least the two main parties involved seem to recognize at least the second fact in hindsight. Now, a few words for a few people.
DISCLAIMER:The content of the following lines very well may offend a few people or cause them to become upset. READ AT YOUR OWN RISK! If you feel that you cannot handle hearing what I have to say without turing this into a flame war or generally causing drama, just don't read it. To that end, Russel I will say in advance that I doubt you will be insulted by what I have to say to you (specifically to you... I don't know how you'll feel about what I have to say to everyone else) and would prefer if you would read at least the next 2 paragraphs.
Licensing agreement: You affirm that by continuing to read this post that you understand that there is a risk of being upset by it's contents. Furthermore, you affirm that before reply to this post you, if you are upset or feel insulted by it, you will allow a proper amount of "cool down" time before replying. If you do not agree to the terms and conditions set forth in this agreement you are obligated to discontinue the reading of this post. Failure to comply with the terms of this agreement will result in your post likely being deleted, or at the very least remaining screened for all time and since I do not make it a habit of moderating my journal I feel it appropriate to inform everyone in advance.
To Russel: Out of everyone involved in last nights events, you are only person who came out of it with more respect from me than they had going in. Of everyone involved you were one of the only ones who recognized straight away that this had already gone to far and needed to go no further and you admitted that perhaps this joke had been a bit of a bad idea, or at least letting it go so far wasn't so hot an idea and for that I say thank you. I do, however, fear that as a result of this you and I may see each other even less than we do already. I guess we'll see how this all pans out as the debris is still falling.
To Britni: Not that this means very much coming from someone you don't even know, but I have a great deal of respect for any person who can do what you did last night for the very same reasons as I stated in the post to Russel.
To Amanda: I, first of all, would like to give you my most sincere and heart-felt appology for last night. I could try to explain why I said what I said, by why bother? It's not really all that important at the end of the day. What is important is that you understand that I do indeed value your friendship and that I regret that things turned out the way they did. Again, I am sorry.
To Chaela: First off, I once again encourage you to get your facts straight before you begin bearing your teeth at me. Just as before, rather than attempting to resolve the situation you simply seem to be content with being angry and thats fine. You know how to find me if you want to talk, not that I expect that you want to. As for why I am angry, if you care, understand that I do not like being drug into the middle of things and I like being lied to even less. As far as I'm concerned and until I hear otherwise, I can easily assume that you were part of the "group" that decided to let this joke go on the way it did. And, going on that assumption, you essentially lied to me as WELL as dragging me into this load of shit.
As for your claim that you only IMed me because I was the first one on your buddylist, I don't buy it. And even so, you picked me because I am her boyfriend. Plain and simple. This whole "oh you just misunderstood my intentions" crap is just that. Crap. Conciously or unconciously it was because of the fact that she is my girlfriend and you wanted to bitch about her. Add on to that the fact that you KNEW how I would react and it just seems silly that you would IM me about that and expect me to just nod. You KNEW I would try and figure out what was going on and you KNEW I would try and analyze the situation. How do I know you knew? Because thats how I always react. Always. Unless I'm told that the person really doesn't want my opinion on the situation and just needs to talk I will ALWAYS do that. It's just how I am. And you know that. You know that because, like you said, you've been my friend since before Nessa and I got together.