The difference between want and need is self-control.
Why do some people have self-control and others seem to struggle so much to acquire even a bit of it?
Self-control and self-mastery seem to be goals that a person must work toward throughout his or her life; while we may be exceptional in one area, we will fall short in another...else I guess we'd all be perfect, eh?
So why is it that some people seem to have such a hard time acquiring any sort of self-control? Is it simply our perception of their life or is it truth? I've been thinking a lot about how perceptions become our reality lately and what exactly reality is, but that's topic for another post.
I've found that accepting personal responsibility is key to successfully dealing with anything life brings...not always easy, but there it is. Further, I strictly adhere to the "you are what you think" concept. If we think something often enough, we begin to believe it's true. If you tell yourself you're stupid often enough, eventually you're going to believe it. Another example is people who tell themselves (and anyone else who'll listen) "I can't do math." Unless you have some sort of learning disability, you can do math - if you are willing to take the time to focus and learn it. It might take effort to learn complicated mathematical formulae and fight cognitive distortions at the same time, but it can be done. "I can't do math" is self-defeating, excusatory thinking and, unfortunately, we're all guilty of it in one form or another.
Most people reading this information will agree with it, but then keep trudging along in their own little rut. What makes some people eager to embrace change and work toward self-actualization? What kind of motivation do people need to initiate self-betterment? Wouldn't they want to do so just for its own sake?
It's interesting to consider that, in the end, our abilities and accomplishments may only be limited by our conceptions.
Self-control and self-mastery seem to be goals that a person must work toward throughout his or her life; while we may be exceptional in one area, we will fall short in another...else I guess we'd all be perfect, eh?
So why is it that some people seem to have such a hard time acquiring any sort of self-control? Is it simply our perception of their life or is it truth? I've been thinking a lot about how perceptions become our reality lately and what exactly reality is, but that's topic for another post.
I've found that accepting personal responsibility is key to successfully dealing with anything life brings...not always easy, but there it is. Further, I strictly adhere to the "you are what you think" concept. If we think something often enough, we begin to believe it's true. If you tell yourself you're stupid often enough, eventually you're going to believe it. Another example is people who tell themselves (and anyone else who'll listen) "I can't do math." Unless you have some sort of learning disability, you can do math - if you are willing to take the time to focus and learn it. It might take effort to learn complicated mathematical formulae and fight cognitive distortions at the same time, but it can be done. "I can't do math" is self-defeating, excusatory thinking and, unfortunately, we're all guilty of it in one form or another.
Most people reading this information will agree with it, but then keep trudging along in their own little rut. What makes some people eager to embrace change and work toward self-actualization? What kind of motivation do people need to initiate self-betterment? Wouldn't they want to do so just for its own sake?
It's interesting to consider that, in the end, our abilities and accomplishments may only be limited by our conceptions.