Oct 08, 2006 19:45
So there is an quote that Neil Gaiman wrote in his collection of short stories called "Smoke and Mirrors". It is in the introduction story and it goes "...and whether it would be worse to love someone who was no longer there, or not to love someone who was."
As everyone who reads this knows my marriage is within days of final being over, and I say that lightly because it was over 7 years ago we just got around to dealing with the paperwork (for the 2nd time I might add). But this is such a strong statement and it brought me back to those horrible days before Heather and I split up.
It's amazing how when you leave/separate from someone how all the bad stuff kinda fades away and you remember most of the good stuff. This also applies to my last relationship. There were many bad times, which is why we are no longer together, but the further away from the bad times you get the harder it is to remember just why the magic was lost in the first place.
I won't spoil the story or even give you a context from which it comes, but yes, I believe it's harder to love someone who is no longer there then to not love someone who is. It takes a strong person to walk away from that situation when they realize it's no longer good and try salvage some sort of dignity out of the situation.
On a side note, I wish I was more confident in myself when it come to certain situations. I can handle most anything except for that first contact with the opposite sex. My brain goes dead and I start to mumble like a zombie, it's kinda like ..cute girl, oooooooooooo.