Hurt
Ok Question?
Do I come off as being a complete petty selfish bitch? cos someone who I thought knew me accused me of doin summat really petty in retaliation over summat I didn't even have an issue with.
Am really hurt that someone could think of me like that. I always thought I was a fair minded person, so honest opinions please.
Do I come off as being a complete petty selfish bitch? cos someone who I thought knew me accused me of doin summat really petty in retaliation over summat I didn't even have an issue with.
Am really hurt that someone could think of me like that. I always thought I was a fair minded person, so honest opinions please.
I think in this particular case you over-reacted quite a bit and triggered a knee-jerk reaction from someone who had been getting crap flung at them for weeks by other people in the vicinity. Trying to get on with your day to day stuff while you know someone not so far away is being really unpleasant behind your back and regarding you with nothing but disdain makes a person very defensive.
So... when a normally very fair and understanding person accidentally comes across as really accusatory it feels to the other, defensive person that they're just jumping on the seemingly internet-wide campaign of angst and bitterness (see previous comment and those of total strangers rallying to the cause of male-persecution) that said defensive person has been dealing with for weeks and makes said defensive person act irrationally because they feel like suddenly the sensible, impartial, non-immature person in the house is suddenly having a go at them as well. One person being childish he can handle and ignore, but he tells me that he has always expected and received a lot more from yourself.
Long winded but yeah. If it answers your question then no, you don't in any way come across as petty or selfish but on that one occasion, even though you didn't mean to, you came across as calling one of your long standing friends an outright liar cos you were in a stress. You come off the phone with totally the wrong end of the stick and the leader of the big hate campaign dives right in and makes the situation a whole lot worse by no doubt seeing a perfect opportunity to further blinker your view of others.
Do I come off as being a complete petty selfish bitch?
Not you no, not at all, ever. Though I think we know who's been behaving like that lately. Unfortunately, said defensive person is only really guilty of telling said self-involved person that she is being unreasonable in expecting her wishes and views to be the only valid options in what are meant to be shared lodgings. Unfortunately, said self-involved person isn't used to not getting her own way (you are totally right and it is a big shame) and this has ended up with things going, unfortunately, royally tits up.
Wasn't that marvellously third person? I thought so. Don't beat yourself up chuck. You've been nowt but excellent and if you can manage to keep in touch without getting too much stress then you totally should. x
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