A thought on the day
Does anyone remember the movie Wizards? It was a Ralph Bakshi film; not that great, but not that bad, either. There's a bit in the film where Elinor, the fairy, betrays Avatar, the cute, grumbling curmudgeon wizard from Vaughn Bodé's Cheech Wizard. Avatar spends a good half hour of the film after that wandering around, muttering, depressed, and completely dissociated. Avatar later has a moment of epiphany and clarity where he snaps out of it. Unfortunately, it's in front of two enemy soldiers, but the sentiment is still there. "No, no, no, you fools!" he cries out, approaching them. "Love! Love!! That's what it's all about!"
Fast forward to today. I have this really strange relationship with Valentine's Day. efbq and I have never really gotten into it; she's always felt kind of cynical towards it and I must say that I know a bit of where she's coming from. Plus we have the "old marrieds" thing going on where don't always say it or demonstrate it...but we've learned to pick up on each other and know that it's there. We shouldn't need a day to remind of something that should be part of the relationship...really, part of just interacting with other people.
OTOH, there is something to having the ceremony, the time of commemoration that forces us to put other things aside for that time and concentrate on something important that we may otherwise take for granted.
And in all the weirdness and all the screwed-up-edness that life has in store for us all lately, it really is true that the important thing is love. Not the roses and candy and mushiness part of love - necessarily - and not even the sexual part of love - necessarily - but the love that lives in our hearts because of who we are, and the love that we give because of who the other one is.
So today, I want to wish everyone reading this love, because you all really do mean that much to me.
Fast forward to today. I have this really strange relationship with Valentine's Day. efbq and I have never really gotten into it; she's always felt kind of cynical towards it and I must say that I know a bit of where she's coming from. Plus we have the "old marrieds" thing going on where don't always say it or demonstrate it...but we've learned to pick up on each other and know that it's there. We shouldn't need a day to remind of something that should be part of the relationship...really, part of just interacting with other people.
OTOH, there is something to having the ceremony, the time of commemoration that forces us to put other things aside for that time and concentrate on something important that we may otherwise take for granted.
And in all the weirdness and all the screwed-up-edness that life has in store for us all lately, it really is true that the important thing is love. Not the roses and candy and mushiness part of love - necessarily - and not even the sexual part of love - necessarily - but the love that lives in our hearts because of who we are, and the love that we give because of who the other one is.
So today, I want to wish everyone reading this love, because you all really do mean that much to me.