well, that turned into a novel...
so, yesterday i'm at my grandfather's house. he's moving from cypress to leisure world (and couldn't be more excited about the prospect of having things to do, people to talk to, and whatnot...), and we're helping him move the heavy stuff, and going through the fancy china and silver to see if there's anything we'd like for ourselves...which honestly felt awful. virtually all of the stuff that's left was my grandmothers, and i know she took such pride and enjoyed her things...reminds me of my grandmere's house, where things are tagged with her children's names of who wants what...she has a different mentality (seeing it as helpful for when the time comes, people know what goes to whom...), but i digress...
the phone rings when we're just about ready to wrap up, grandpa goes to answer it, and from the other room, we hear his obvious confusion...my mom and i walk into the room he's in, and see his face is white. "it's lauri". we stop dead in our tracks. why now? why ever? this woman has caused so much pain and anger in our familiy (brief synopsis for those not in the know: lauri is my father's adopted daughter from his first marriage. he passed away in 2001. she was never really a part of my life growing up, and i've pretty much harbored resentment for her since i was 8). after my grandmother died, she basically fell off the planet, only calling when she needed money. she used my grandfather for money, and would call him saying that she wanted to visit my grandmother's gravesite with him. he'd wait around all day, and she'd never show up. no phone call, no nothing. we haven't seen or heard from her in almost 2 years, and we were all quite happy about that. she pulled the same shit this time, and said that she wanted to visit the gravesite again tomorrow (ie: today).
apparently she was either a) drunk or b) high when she called. and after a halting and angry conversation with my grandfather, he hung up and sadly said "i did not need this right now".
our efforts to dissuade him from interacting with her took immediate effect. i was so angry, i was shaking. i know my protective instincts were kicking into high gear, and was trying not to blurt out "i hate her!".
in the end, he never even told her he was moving. i don't think he's going to wait around for her today. he said he wouldn't...i hope he doesn't.
it makes me mad that she can stir up this much anger in me.
i know she doesn't have her shit together, but i just don't want her in our lives anymore...i know i sound awful, but i can't verbalize how much i dislike this woman...
ahhh...
i thought that writing this down would help, but it hasn't much...
the phone rings when we're just about ready to wrap up, grandpa goes to answer it, and from the other room, we hear his obvious confusion...my mom and i walk into the room he's in, and see his face is white. "it's lauri". we stop dead in our tracks. why now? why ever? this woman has caused so much pain and anger in our familiy (brief synopsis for those not in the know: lauri is my father's adopted daughter from his first marriage. he passed away in 2001. she was never really a part of my life growing up, and i've pretty much harbored resentment for her since i was 8). after my grandmother died, she basically fell off the planet, only calling when she needed money. she used my grandfather for money, and would call him saying that she wanted to visit my grandmother's gravesite with him. he'd wait around all day, and she'd never show up. no phone call, no nothing. we haven't seen or heard from her in almost 2 years, and we were all quite happy about that. she pulled the same shit this time, and said that she wanted to visit the gravesite again tomorrow (ie: today).
apparently she was either a) drunk or b) high when she called. and after a halting and angry conversation with my grandfather, he hung up and sadly said "i did not need this right now".
our efforts to dissuade him from interacting with her took immediate effect. i was so angry, i was shaking. i know my protective instincts were kicking into high gear, and was trying not to blurt out "i hate her!".
in the end, he never even told her he was moving. i don't think he's going to wait around for her today. he said he wouldn't...i hope he doesn't.
it makes me mad that she can stir up this much anger in me.
i know she doesn't have her shit together, but i just don't want her in our lives anymore...i know i sound awful, but i can't verbalize how much i dislike this woman...
ahhh...
i thought that writing this down would help, but it hasn't much...