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there is something about putting your mouth on another human mouth, entwining fingers, exchanging vows of love, and living day in and day out in the presence of another person that is at once a denial and an affirmation of death. there is something radically insurrectionist about it, yet also something acquiescent. there is a sense of the two of us alone together on a windswept planet, clinging to one another for warmth; but there is also the sense of an invincible alliance, the bold formation of something that is ultimately stronger than anything the enemy can throw at you.
-mike mason, the mystery of marriage
i really love this quote. it brings to light one of the several dichotomies present in marriage. (now that's a sentence that a college student would write...the rest of this probably won't be anywhere near that eloquent) the fact that love defies as well as accepts death is a tough one to wrap your mind around. let me see if i can express it without butchering the concept.
when you love someone, you give all that you are to that person. you place your life in the hands without recognition of the possible consquences; nothing else is as important as that person. love involves that sacrifice, that denial of the self. accompanying the denial of self is the denial of death. when one is focused on oneself, one is trying to save oneself from all myriad numbers of things- pain, poverty, sickness, etc etc, until one arrives at death. to truly love someone you must be willing to throw all of the concerns of death to the winds and focus all your efforts on this other person. this is something that is rarely seen in today's world. yes, people still get married and yes, people still fall in love...but how often do you see someone selflessly serving the one that they are bonded to? how often do you witness a love that is pure and based solely upon the presence of the other (not on what that person does for you)? it is rare to see love that is Christlike...very rare.
on the flip side, when you love someone, you must realize that this person holds your destiny in their hands. that your happiness and all other manner of life matters are under their control. who you are married to determines a tremendous part of what your life is going to look like which means that the one you marry will influence everything in your life. forever. loving someone involves placing your heart and all that you have on them. when they die, you have lost truly half of yourself. to recognize the power that you are giving death over your joy and still do this thing called marriage is accepting that one day, the pain of separation is going to come your way. and the only way to live with that knowledge hanging over your head is to serve the one you love as if it was your last day together. once they are gone, it is too late to honor them, to cherish them, to serve them, to love them. each day is the day to realize what death can bring into your life and by accepting this, you put yourself in the service of the one you love...to give them what they deserve because they might not be around tomorrow.
kinda funny how both view of things cause you to serve the one you love.
kare bear
-mike mason, the mystery of marriage
i really love this quote. it brings to light one of the several dichotomies present in marriage. (now that's a sentence that a college student would write...the rest of this probably won't be anywhere near that eloquent) the fact that love defies as well as accepts death is a tough one to wrap your mind around. let me see if i can express it without butchering the concept.
when you love someone, you give all that you are to that person. you place your life in the hands without recognition of the possible consquences; nothing else is as important as that person. love involves that sacrifice, that denial of the self. accompanying the denial of self is the denial of death. when one is focused on oneself, one is trying to save oneself from all myriad numbers of things- pain, poverty, sickness, etc etc, until one arrives at death. to truly love someone you must be willing to throw all of the concerns of death to the winds and focus all your efforts on this other person. this is something that is rarely seen in today's world. yes, people still get married and yes, people still fall in love...but how often do you see someone selflessly serving the one that they are bonded to? how often do you witness a love that is pure and based solely upon the presence of the other (not on what that person does for you)? it is rare to see love that is Christlike...very rare.
on the flip side, when you love someone, you must realize that this person holds your destiny in their hands. that your happiness and all other manner of life matters are under their control. who you are married to determines a tremendous part of what your life is going to look like which means that the one you marry will influence everything in your life. forever. loving someone involves placing your heart and all that you have on them. when they die, you have lost truly half of yourself. to recognize the power that you are giving death over your joy and still do this thing called marriage is accepting that one day, the pain of separation is going to come your way. and the only way to live with that knowledge hanging over your head is to serve the one you love as if it was your last day together. once they are gone, it is too late to honor them, to cherish them, to serve them, to love them. each day is the day to realize what death can bring into your life and by accepting this, you put yourself in the service of the one you love...to give them what they deserve because they might not be around tomorrow.
kinda funny how both view of things cause you to serve the one you love.
kare bear