my turn :)
given the reminder that one can write anything in their own journal they want, because it's their journal, i'm going to take a moment to talk about whats been happening with a few friends of mine that have found themselves in a very sticky situation.
jannah left chris. SHE LEFT HIM.
left him for a 24 year old spanish guy, whom, may or may not be a good guy, and good thing. i dont know, i dont know the dude. but, honestly, her feelings for chris, and her concern for what chris does with his life, should have ended with the relationship. she decided to end it, she needs to deal with the consequences of freedom from the relationship she has no more emotional attachment, or at least she shouldn't to leave him straight up for another guy, and shouldn't have any room to say anything.
you cant dump someone, then turn around and start barking orders
.,... however that doesnt mean what chris and ashlie did was the smartest idea, in my opinion.
KNOWING its literally impossible for jannah to handle a situation like this anywhere remotely close to mature or responsible, the last... LAST thing that she should have ever done is tell the father of her child, that he's not allowed to see his son.
fights, no fights... thats not your life. thats your son's life. and just because he's not old enough to talk, doesnt mean that its not obvious that a son should know his biological father, regardless of the standpoint of the parents, that's any human's god given rights, i dont care who you are. name on birth certificate or not.
to deny chris of that, is by far, 1000 times over worse than anything chris could ever do to jannah, and in my opinion makes her an extremely horrible parent, in the aspect that she is willing to deny her child of a father because she cant handle something, thats a personal problem in her life that literally has nothing to do with her son.
she's obviously still feeling over chris enough to try to hurt chris in a way that's so deep. and thats just... completely horrible.
basically jannah is trying to control him, even though theyre not dating anymore.
now let me once again say, that its not really, and was never really a good idea for chris and ashlie to think what they were doing was going to be a good idea, i mean, honestly? who didn't see jannah flipping out and doing some fucked up shit like that.. honestly. .. BUT. bringing holden in, and using their child as any kind of leverage, is still completely fucked up.
fight all you guys want, hate each other all you fucking want, but be mature enough to give your son the opportunity to see his father and mother. its only right. regardless of the feelings towards each other you both still have one thing in common. you love the child you both brought into this world, and that's never going to change, so how can you think like that. you dont have to talk, or be pals. set up times and dates to let chris take him, and just have levi do it, since sadly enough it seems levi handled the situation more maturely than his older sister. (good job levi. lol)
there's millions of divorced parents that are good enough parents to give their child that opportunity, so what makes you so fucking irresponsible that you cant do that for holden, or chris. that just goes beyond anything.
and julia, if youre gunna have input, at least do so maturely... i'm not happy with the shit ive been hearing, and its obvious i'm not very fond of jannah's actions, but i'm not gunna go with a simple "omg fuck you bitch blah blah blah" i'm concerned for holden, and what he deserves. i'm not acting like a 16 year old.
jannah can go be happy with her new boy thing, and chris and ashlie can do whatever they want, whether that be a good idea on their part or not, its their lives, theyre both ADULTS. they make their own decisions. hate them all you want, but dont make decisions for a child that's not even old enough to understand whats going on. because i'm pretty sure if he was old enough to realize whats going on, he'd want his father in his life. its not like hes in and out of jail, does massive drugs, or is a skinhead, or anything. heh.
stop thinking so selfishly.
jannah left chris. SHE LEFT HIM.
left him for a 24 year old spanish guy, whom, may or may not be a good guy, and good thing. i dont know, i dont know the dude. but, honestly, her feelings for chris, and her concern for what chris does with his life, should have ended with the relationship. she decided to end it, she needs to deal with the consequences of freedom from the relationship she has no more emotional attachment, or at least she shouldn't to leave him straight up for another guy, and shouldn't have any room to say anything.
you cant dump someone, then turn around and start barking orders
.,... however that doesnt mean what chris and ashlie did was the smartest idea, in my opinion.
KNOWING its literally impossible for jannah to handle a situation like this anywhere remotely close to mature or responsible, the last... LAST thing that she should have ever done is tell the father of her child, that he's not allowed to see his son.
fights, no fights... thats not your life. thats your son's life. and just because he's not old enough to talk, doesnt mean that its not obvious that a son should know his biological father, regardless of the standpoint of the parents, that's any human's god given rights, i dont care who you are. name on birth certificate or not.
to deny chris of that, is by far, 1000 times over worse than anything chris could ever do to jannah, and in my opinion makes her an extremely horrible parent, in the aspect that she is willing to deny her child of a father because she cant handle something, thats a personal problem in her life that literally has nothing to do with her son.
she's obviously still feeling over chris enough to try to hurt chris in a way that's so deep. and thats just... completely horrible.
basically jannah is trying to control him, even though theyre not dating anymore.
now let me once again say, that its not really, and was never really a good idea for chris and ashlie to think what they were doing was going to be a good idea, i mean, honestly? who didn't see jannah flipping out and doing some fucked up shit like that.. honestly. .. BUT. bringing holden in, and using their child as any kind of leverage, is still completely fucked up.
fight all you guys want, hate each other all you fucking want, but be mature enough to give your son the opportunity to see his father and mother. its only right. regardless of the feelings towards each other you both still have one thing in common. you love the child you both brought into this world, and that's never going to change, so how can you think like that. you dont have to talk, or be pals. set up times and dates to let chris take him, and just have levi do it, since sadly enough it seems levi handled the situation more maturely than his older sister. (good job levi. lol)
there's millions of divorced parents that are good enough parents to give their child that opportunity, so what makes you so fucking irresponsible that you cant do that for holden, or chris. that just goes beyond anything.
and julia, if youre gunna have input, at least do so maturely... i'm not happy with the shit ive been hearing, and its obvious i'm not very fond of jannah's actions, but i'm not gunna go with a simple "omg fuck you bitch blah blah blah" i'm concerned for holden, and what he deserves. i'm not acting like a 16 year old.
jannah can go be happy with her new boy thing, and chris and ashlie can do whatever they want, whether that be a good idea on their part or not, its their lives, theyre both ADULTS. they make their own decisions. hate them all you want, but dont make decisions for a child that's not even old enough to understand whats going on. because i'm pretty sure if he was old enough to realize whats going on, he'd want his father in his life. its not like hes in and out of jail, does massive drugs, or is a skinhead, or anything. heh.
stop thinking so selfishly.