Relationships..
I don't know what started this train of thought.. Is it better, or
worse, to have had many relationships, before you meet someone you
want to spend the rest of your life with? Is it even possible for
everyone to do that? Probably depends on the person, and the
circumstances, as always. At least I can't say I regret how I've
lived.. How are you supposed to know whats out there, if you don't try
out?
My motto, decided long ago, is 'Try everything, at least once' .. .oO(
Of course with restrictions for stupid things, like jumping off of
cliffs without a parachute or other live-saving means ) (Which reminds
me, for some reason, that theres one thing I haven't really tried yet,
living alone.. I don't particularly want to either.. ) Anyway, I seem
to have tried all sorts of different partners.. Though they mostly
seem to have started out the same way, I seem to be a sucker for
people who are in need of somebody, the stupid thing being that when
they don't need me any more, we kind of drift apart.. (Which takes
about 6months to a year, depending..) I guess thats probably usually
my fault, theres no challenge any more, or the relationship falls into
a kind of boring rut. I guess the real challenge of staying together
is avoiding this somehow, but how? Someone told me that long-term
partners fall in love with each other all over again every few
years.. Beats me how that works, it suggests that both need to make an effort
though..
I just read an article which had two significant points (at least):
1. The worst thing about falling in love is that it makes us blind at
the time, we may notice that the person we are falling for has
negative sides, but at the time we don't care. [Later though, these
things can be annoying, and we wish we could change our minds..]
2. Because of this (or to counter it, whatever), we're better off with
people from similar backgrounds, similar schooling level and similar
interests. In the long run this pays off..
It also said that people that have been together a long time (30 years
or so) really do get to look similar, because of the experiences
they've shared.. Good or bad.
Hmm, actually I wanted to say something about my own experiences.. I'm
not getting very far am I? I've gone off the idea now somehow.. ;)
Maybe just one thing.. I'm not averse to changing or being changed a
little myself, but one thing I've found terrible is when my (so
called) partner thinks he has the only and best answers to everything,
and is stuck in his ways. (Which can be something very simple, like
insisting to accompanying me shopping, to carry everything. I _can_ do
it myself too, really. Some people might find that strange, but
there's a difference between helping, and making me feel like.. I
dunno, an invalid or a child or something.. )
Afterthought: Trying everything doesn't mean going off and looking for
opportunities to do things, but rather not saying no when one presents
itself. Which means I haven't gotten around to trying sex with the
same gender yet, or various fetishes.. And probably won't..
worse, to have had many relationships, before you meet someone you
want to spend the rest of your life with? Is it even possible for
everyone to do that? Probably depends on the person, and the
circumstances, as always. At least I can't say I regret how I've
lived.. How are you supposed to know whats out there, if you don't try
out?
My motto, decided long ago, is 'Try everything, at least once' .. .oO(
Of course with restrictions for stupid things, like jumping off of
cliffs without a parachute or other live-saving means ) (Which reminds
me, for some reason, that theres one thing I haven't really tried yet,
living alone.. I don't particularly want to either.. ) Anyway, I seem
to have tried all sorts of different partners.. Though they mostly
seem to have started out the same way, I seem to be a sucker for
people who are in need of somebody, the stupid thing being that when
they don't need me any more, we kind of drift apart.. (Which takes
about 6months to a year, depending..) I guess thats probably usually
my fault, theres no challenge any more, or the relationship falls into
a kind of boring rut. I guess the real challenge of staying together
is avoiding this somehow, but how? Someone told me that long-term
partners fall in love with each other all over again every few
years.. Beats me how that works, it suggests that both need to make an effort
though..
I just read an article which had two significant points (at least):
1. The worst thing about falling in love is that it makes us blind at
the time, we may notice that the person we are falling for has
negative sides, but at the time we don't care. [Later though, these
things can be annoying, and we wish we could change our minds..]
2. Because of this (or to counter it, whatever), we're better off with
people from similar backgrounds, similar schooling level and similar
interests. In the long run this pays off..
It also said that people that have been together a long time (30 years
or so) really do get to look similar, because of the experiences
they've shared.. Good or bad.
Hmm, actually I wanted to say something about my own experiences.. I'm
not getting very far am I? I've gone off the idea now somehow.. ;)
Maybe just one thing.. I'm not averse to changing or being changed a
little myself, but one thing I've found terrible is when my (so
called) partner thinks he has the only and best answers to everything,
and is stuck in his ways. (Which can be something very simple, like
insisting to accompanying me shopping, to carry everything. I _can_ do
it myself too, really. Some people might find that strange, but
there's a difference between helping, and making me feel like.. I
dunno, an invalid or a child or something.. )
Afterthought: Trying everything doesn't mean going off and looking for
opportunities to do things, but rather not saying no when one presents
itself. Which means I haven't gotten around to trying sex with the
same gender yet, or various fetishes.. And probably won't..