To Men Who Think They Want to Date or Acquire a Belly Dancer

[scheiny]

"Fantasy woman isn't fantasy, she's a real, living, breathing human who has worked very hard to get out in front of people and perform. She already has her own life going on. She's not going to drop everything to perpetuate your fantasy. And how dare you make her more uncomfortable after she's overcome doubt, and fear, and nerves about whether she should be performing in front of people? That's just unkind, rude, and insensitive.

And nobody, dancer or not, wants to associate with someone unkind, rude, or insensitive."

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