Why are you hurting?
Overcoming your past is different then repressing your past!
Let's say, for example, as a child your father died, as a teenager you lost every friend you held dear(which at that age is the end of the world), first year in college you were assaulted, in bigger college you were rejected by a sorority, this past christmas you were nearly kicked out of that house that you called home, on your wedding day your house was robbed, it seemed that every door that opened an outside force seemed to be slamming it back! It felt that everytime a door was slammed in your face there was a force on the otherside with that stolen key. It hurts I must say, I would know.
Everyone does feel badly for those occurences happening to you, they do, even if they don't know how to show it. Then, you get to the point that everyone tells you to "get over it", so you say you do, and repress it, then that single event keeps you awake at night, it haunts your thoughts in the day, you get to the point of depression, you are hearing voices of the past screaming in your head. So here is my advice, as soon as a tragic event happens to you, you must do what works for you, but that may not be what's easiest for you! Let me rephrase this: That will not be what's easiest for you! As soon as I found out we were robbed I went through a hysteric shock you could say. My head and mind were going nuts, but I said nothing. What I would have typically have found easy was to sit on the couch and mope, which I will tell you I lost strength sometimes and did just that. I found myself sleeping during the days, which anyone who knows me, knows that even during naptime in pre-k I was running circles on the floor, I am not a day time sleeper! I let it hurt me, it was so easy to, and I was so comfortable with doing that. But then I realized something, that what I ws doing to make myself happy was actually by just letting myself hurt. The irony. So I thought to myself, what am I hurting for? What am I wanting that I don't have? (I can't change the past, we aren't getting our things back.) Maybe I was wanting a house that didn't scream "We were robbed". So Jordan by my side we went shopping! Thrift Stores, antique malls, flea markets, pawn shops, Target, Peir 1. But here is the thing, we were not shopping for what we lost, in fact we didn't even buy a coffee table, or end table, or PS2 or PS1, or DDR, or Karoke, or a new computer, not because we couldn't afford to replace what we lost, but because once I, and I believe he did too, realized what I wanted, and then took immediate action to achieve it, it was forgotten and dealt with. So for those of you who are hurting, why are you hurting? what are you hurting for?
Let's say, for example, as a child your father died, as a teenager you lost every friend you held dear(which at that age is the end of the world), first year in college you were assaulted, in bigger college you were rejected by a sorority, this past christmas you were nearly kicked out of that house that you called home, on your wedding day your house was robbed, it seemed that every door that opened an outside force seemed to be slamming it back! It felt that everytime a door was slammed in your face there was a force on the otherside with that stolen key. It hurts I must say, I would know.
Everyone does feel badly for those occurences happening to you, they do, even if they don't know how to show it. Then, you get to the point that everyone tells you to "get over it", so you say you do, and repress it, then that single event keeps you awake at night, it haunts your thoughts in the day, you get to the point of depression, you are hearing voices of the past screaming in your head. So here is my advice, as soon as a tragic event happens to you, you must do what works for you, but that may not be what's easiest for you! Let me rephrase this: That will not be what's easiest for you! As soon as I found out we were robbed I went through a hysteric shock you could say. My head and mind were going nuts, but I said nothing. What I would have typically have found easy was to sit on the couch and mope, which I will tell you I lost strength sometimes and did just that. I found myself sleeping during the days, which anyone who knows me, knows that even during naptime in pre-k I was running circles on the floor, I am not a day time sleeper! I let it hurt me, it was so easy to, and I was so comfortable with doing that. But then I realized something, that what I ws doing to make myself happy was actually by just letting myself hurt. The irony. So I thought to myself, what am I hurting for? What am I wanting that I don't have? (I can't change the past, we aren't getting our things back.) Maybe I was wanting a house that didn't scream "We were robbed". So Jordan by my side we went shopping! Thrift Stores, antique malls, flea markets, pawn shops, Target, Peir 1. But here is the thing, we were not shopping for what we lost, in fact we didn't even buy a coffee table, or end table, or PS2 or PS1, or DDR, or Karoke, or a new computer, not because we couldn't afford to replace what we lost, but because once I, and I believe he did too, realized what I wanted, and then took immediate action to achieve it, it was forgotten and dealt with. So for those of you who are hurting, why are you hurting? what are you hurting for?