What would you do...?
Okay, here is a PRIME example of the randomness that is me.
I was watching TLC last night, randomly, and they had a quasi-documentary about transgendered people. They had a woman who was becoming a man and a man who was becoming a woman. They also had two people who were already fully transgendered (and honestly, I couldn't tell!!!)
One of the top things they talked about was the relationship issue. The "woman" had a wife and four sons. She was told that if she did, in fact, become fully transgendered then the wife would leave.
Another woman, who was once a man, told her boyfriend that she used to be a guy (and wow...lemme tell you, he was a hottie! lol) and he was okay with it. He said, "You know, in our past, we were all different people. My girlfriend just happened to be a really different person, but that doesn't mean I love her any less."
That made me think....what would I do...especially if I was *married* to that person for a long time?
At first I was like, "I would probably get a divorce, b/c I married that person, not this one." Then I thought, "Well, 'this' person was always inside the one I married, and the person I married was a sham and a lie. This is the real person." Then, of course, there's the sex issue. I'm not a lesbian, so would I want to be hooked up with another woman, even if that person used to be a man?
Ultimately, I think I would stay with that person and not leave on that basis alone. I figure, I'm in love with the person, not the gender (and uh...there are other ways to get it poppin'...lol). Now, if that person wanted to be with men, that would be another story. I wouldn't change...I am who I am. But if she still wanted to be with me, just as a woman, then I'd say, "Okay." You gotta go be true to yourself and go for what you want.
I was watching TLC last night, randomly, and they had a quasi-documentary about transgendered people. They had a woman who was becoming a man and a man who was becoming a woman. They also had two people who were already fully transgendered (and honestly, I couldn't tell!!!)
One of the top things they talked about was the relationship issue. The "woman" had a wife and four sons. She was told that if she did, in fact, become fully transgendered then the wife would leave.
Another woman, who was once a man, told her boyfriend that she used to be a guy (and wow...lemme tell you, he was a hottie! lol) and he was okay with it. He said, "You know, in our past, we were all different people. My girlfriend just happened to be a really different person, but that doesn't mean I love her any less."
That made me think....what would I do...especially if I was *married* to that person for a long time?
At first I was like, "I would probably get a divorce, b/c I married that person, not this one." Then I thought, "Well, 'this' person was always inside the one I married, and the person I married was a sham and a lie. This is the real person." Then, of course, there's the sex issue. I'm not a lesbian, so would I want to be hooked up with another woman, even if that person used to be a man?
Ultimately, I think I would stay with that person and not leave on that basis alone. I figure, I'm in love with the person, not the gender (and uh...there are other ways to get it poppin'...lol). Now, if that person wanted to be with men, that would be another story. I wouldn't change...I am who I am. But if she still wanted to be with me, just as a woman, then I'd say, "Okay." You gotta go be true to yourself and go for what you want.