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so a real entry this time.
in my sex and relationships class today we talked about when couples fight. I thought it was really interesting.
Apparently there are the "four horsemen of the apocolypse" for couples when it comes to fighting. If the couples experiance this, they either will break up soon or need to stop.
1. Excessive Criticism of partner leading to feelings of shame
2. Defensiveness in the face of the partners complaints, may lead to retaliation.
3. Stonewalling (withdrawing and isolating self from partner)
4. Contempt (directly insulting the other person with an intent to cause emotional pain)
When couples fight their heart rate increases to around 132 beats per minute. When the heart rate reaches 100 beats per minute adreniline is secreted and is it physically impossible to listen (you go into a fight of flight response).
And the top three things most couples have their first big fight about:
1. Commitment Ambivalance
2. Jealousy (espically of an ex bf or gf)
and
3. Neglect.
Guess what? the first big fight is themeatic! It will never die!!
I am glad I took this class, it is so fun
and on that note,
i need to get laid, fool!
in my sex and relationships class today we talked about when couples fight. I thought it was really interesting.
Apparently there are the "four horsemen of the apocolypse" for couples when it comes to fighting. If the couples experiance this, they either will break up soon or need to stop.
1. Excessive Criticism of partner leading to feelings of shame
2. Defensiveness in the face of the partners complaints, may lead to retaliation.
3. Stonewalling (withdrawing and isolating self from partner)
4. Contempt (directly insulting the other person with an intent to cause emotional pain)
When couples fight their heart rate increases to around 132 beats per minute. When the heart rate reaches 100 beats per minute adreniline is secreted and is it physically impossible to listen (you go into a fight of flight response).
And the top three things most couples have their first big fight about:
1. Commitment Ambivalance
2. Jealousy (espically of an ex bf or gf)
and
3. Neglect.
Guess what? the first big fight is themeatic! It will never die!!
I am glad I took this class, it is so fun
and on that note,
i need to get laid, fool!