The following is in reaction to comments in the no_pity community. There is apparently some rude 4k character comment length restriction - what fun is THIS
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You don't like flippers?sauvinJune 14 2004, 22:06:07 UTC
If you reacted badly to my use of the word "flipper" in describing what should have been hands and feet, well, GOOD FOR YOU. It's what they looked like, and it's the word a lot of people would use when they're being *kind*. It's what a lot of people would key on, and it's how they'd remember her: "the girl with the flippers, poor thing" or "that freak with the flippers" or some damn thing.
FWIW, the truth about the poor girl with the flippers, as I remember it after 30 years: her name is Lou Ann (I DO remember her family name but ain't giving it out), blonde, blue-eyed, slender build, about 5'5. A fairly calm personality, not given to tics for fidgeting, and she was assertive but not, as far as I could tell from the single get-together we had, dominating or anything. And she DID have a great sense of humour.
Re: You don't like flippers?sauvinJune 14 2004, 22:19:40 UTC
Yes, actually, the absence of malice is in no way related to kindness. Kindness comes from what I understand as "sympathy", whereas cruelty is often unthinking or uncaring even where malice remains absent.
Forgive me for saying so, but you seem to be fixated on a single word, ignoring the context entirely. Tell me, what do you believe I was trying to say?
And I think *you* are reading too much into my reaction. I *do* understand that you respect this woman and in many ways can identify with her. I *understood* what you said. I just balked at the word flipper, as it was used.
yeaahhh i got lost somewhere in the midst of that conversation....
wasn't bats talking about pretty much counting her blessings or something?and her faith, and how, despite it forbidding her from certain things, she doesn't miss them, because she never had them? oh god i'm lost...and i'd feel stupid, if i didn't know i wasn't.
but but but <3 sauvy! and and and and! i jsut wrote my exam, going in with a 96% average!
LOVE ME! I'M SMART AGAIN! (and stuttering and stammering like a motherfucker)
Love you anyway, Carcass, because you seem to be just now remembering, or realising, is that you were never stupid. Besides, some of your being "lost" in this discussion had exactly to do with crossed wires and meanings that'd been folded, spindled, mutilated, lost, misconstrued or just plain smoked in the wrong kind of pipe - I think we ALL got a little lost.
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Poor word choice in an entry that discusses the phenomenon of being thought of as less than human!
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FWIW, the truth about the poor girl with the flippers, as I remember it after 30 years: her name is Lou Ann (I DO remember her family name but ain't giving it out), blonde, blue-eyed, slender build, about 5'5. A fairly calm personality, not given to tics for fidgeting, and she was assertive but not, as far as I could tell from the single get-together we had, dominating or anything. And she DID have a great sense of humour.
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it's the word a lot of people would use when they're being *kind*
Kind? The absence of malice does not equal *kind*.
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Forgive me for saying so, but you seem to be fixated on a single word, ignoring the context entirely. Tell me, what do you believe I was trying to say?
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wasn't bats talking about pretty much counting her blessings or something?and her faith, and how, despite it forbidding her from certain things, she doesn't miss them, because she never had them? oh god i'm lost...and i'd feel stupid, if i didn't know i wasn't.
but but but <3 sauvy! and and and and! i jsut wrote my exam, going in with a 96% average!
LOVE ME! I'M SMART AGAIN! (and stuttering and stammering like a motherfucker)
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you're like a proud old daddy there.
or maybe 'fuddy duddy'. i haven't decided yet.
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