Friends with Kids: some thoughts

[saucydiva]

As the last person to see the movie (besides stillscape) I am sure we're all talked out on it, but let's take a few minutes and get back to it.

Comments

[rikyl]

Hmm, okay, I see your point, and I'm not sure. I think I need to see the movie again because I'm having trouble remembering what their exact logic was. I thought they didn't necessarily think that they'd have an easier time, but that they'd do the hard, unromantic stuff with each other, and therefore save the "romance" for other people? But I think a significant part of it, for Julie, was that she was running out of time to have a baby, and for Jason, that he also really wanted a kid and that (we find out late in the movie) that he thought Julie was the ideal mother for his child.

I felt like we didn't see enough of them with Joe to get a good sampling, so you're probably right about that. I would have liked to another half hour on the movie that explored this all in more depth. But my impression was that they were having an easier time because 1) they happened to get a fairly easy baby. it happens. I know people with easy babies, and I hate them. 2) They were more well-rested because they were giving each other breaks. Married people can and should do this for each other too--they're just not always as diligent about it. 3) They just had a really good relationship, and everything is easier when you have a good relationship. They were both pitching in, being supportive, being gentle and loving with each other. So in conclusion, their theory sucked, and the main reason they succeeded so well is that they should have been married in the first place.

I can't remember why I thought the dinner scene was inconclusive--maybe that was just me not being totally convinced. But Jason did tell Ben that he had been right about most of it, when they met for drinks.

[saucydiva]

I'm going to do a rewatch too, because you have some convincing arguments, here.