Nothing to see here, move along.
I have never really considered cheating on my wife. When it comes right down to it I love my kids, my house, my life and yes, even my wife to much to ever cheat on her. Sometimes though it just seems like we are on 2 completely different planets sexually. I have a female friend that would love to have me as a fuck buddy. Tempting, but not worth it. Sometimes though it's hard to not pick up the phone and call her.
I'm trying to stick to my word of "first refusal" I.e. if I feel I need a release, instead of just taking care of it myself, I'm to give her the first option. Of course I'd much rather be with her, hell, even if it's just a hand job. But when she is in a bad mood, why even bother asking. By asking I fell like I'm just putting pressure on her and then I normally hear "you can't make it 3 days?" I can barely make it 1 day! At lunch today, I'm home. The kids are down stairs doing their school work and I pop upstairs where she is doing some laundry. I'd love nothing better than to come up behind her and start messaging her ass, playing with her, hoping that one thing would lead to another. However, I know this is of no interest to her at the moment, well, most moments. I give her a kiss, a hug, say hi move on. I just feel frustrated.
As you can read, sex is good. Things are good, but twice a week is not enough. It's been about 3 weeks or so of nothing but when I can help her get into the mood. Heck, reading the journals here and writing my own doesn't help sometimes, but it feels like a chicken and egg thing. Am I getting horny because of what I'm reading or am I reading because I'm horny? I waited 6 years to marry her. I knew what I was getting. I knew her libido. I didn't marry her for the sex. Bah, I just wish there was an easy way to fix it. I would think if something made me feel that good every time, I'd want to do it more. Instead, she had to be almost reminded every time. It's like my kids and trying to get them to eat good food. "Remember, you like this. Just eat it." (*snicker* that sounds funny)
I remember being at a party with some close friends and talking with a friend who was having a medical condition that would eventually lead to her having a hysterectomy. But that night she was talking about the drugs her doctor had her on. One of them really increased her libido. Her comment was, "is this what it's like to be a guy. I think about sex all the time, I can't seem to get anything done." At that point I glance over at her husband who seems to be trying to hide a smile. The truth is, that's at least what it's like to be this guy. Of course none of us guys spoke up. Sad really. I used to think that women just didn't have the same level of libido. I now know differently. I have a couple of lady friends that could probably put me to shame. Reading some of the journals on here make me think I'd be asking for a break. :) But it does seem you either are or you aren't. There's no way to change your interest levels. At least if there is, I can't find a way. Truthfully, I wish just for the sake of marital harmony, I could tone my down. I figure by the time I'm 80 we may be in sync.
Sorry to be such a bummer on a Friday night. Anyway, off to a meeting. ::shakes magic 8-Ball:: "Prospects don't look good"
I'm trying to stick to my word of "first refusal" I.e. if I feel I need a release, instead of just taking care of it myself, I'm to give her the first option. Of course I'd much rather be with her, hell, even if it's just a hand job. But when she is in a bad mood, why even bother asking. By asking I fell like I'm just putting pressure on her and then I normally hear "you can't make it 3 days?" I can barely make it 1 day! At lunch today, I'm home. The kids are down stairs doing their school work and I pop upstairs where she is doing some laundry. I'd love nothing better than to come up behind her and start messaging her ass, playing with her, hoping that one thing would lead to another. However, I know this is of no interest to her at the moment, well, most moments. I give her a kiss, a hug, say hi move on. I just feel frustrated.
As you can read, sex is good. Things are good, but twice a week is not enough. It's been about 3 weeks or so of nothing but when I can help her get into the mood. Heck, reading the journals here and writing my own doesn't help sometimes, but it feels like a chicken and egg thing. Am I getting horny because of what I'm reading or am I reading because I'm horny? I waited 6 years to marry her. I knew what I was getting. I knew her libido. I didn't marry her for the sex. Bah, I just wish there was an easy way to fix it. I would think if something made me feel that good every time, I'd want to do it more. Instead, she had to be almost reminded every time. It's like my kids and trying to get them to eat good food. "Remember, you like this. Just eat it." (*snicker* that sounds funny)
I remember being at a party with some close friends and talking with a friend who was having a medical condition that would eventually lead to her having a hysterectomy. But that night she was talking about the drugs her doctor had her on. One of them really increased her libido. Her comment was, "is this what it's like to be a guy. I think about sex all the time, I can't seem to get anything done." At that point I glance over at her husband who seems to be trying to hide a smile. The truth is, that's at least what it's like to be this guy. Of course none of us guys spoke up. Sad really. I used to think that women just didn't have the same level of libido. I now know differently. I have a couple of lady friends that could probably put me to shame. Reading some of the journals on here make me think I'd be asking for a break. :) But it does seem you either are or you aren't. There's no way to change your interest levels. At least if there is, I can't find a way. Truthfully, I wish just for the sake of marital harmony, I could tone my down. I figure by the time I'm 80 we may be in sync.
Sorry to be such a bummer on a Friday night. Anyway, off to a meeting. ::shakes magic 8-Ball:: "Prospects don't look good"