Another stab at romance
I recently read something about a woman who was in a situation where she wanted to date a co-worker but was unsure if another co-worker had already snagged this guy's heart. At one point she had said that its hard to find normal guys and that she often does not feel any sort of chemistry.
I have to stop for a second here and let this simmer... yes, she said its hard to find normal guys. Normality is defined as a commonality, so maybe what she was hoping to find (expecting to be 'normal') is in actuality an abnormal minority amongst mankind.
Too many times I've heard women say they just fall into relationships with bad guys, like they accidentally walked into a relationship and didn't realize that what they are attracted to is the 'wrong' sort of guy. Its the things about the 'wrong' guy that tends to attract women, they always fall for the assholes while hypocritically proclaiming that they know exactly what they want and stand firm to beliefs that are sharply defined and oh so very different from their actions.
This isn't to say that all women are like that. Not all women are hypocrites and bitches, just most of them. Same as most men are assholes and users, but you can still find the occasional guy who is truly wholesome within his heart AND his actions.
With this I'll leave off with a disclaimer and some practiced reasoning. Cliches are cliches because of their commonality (but not necessarily normality). Cliches often seem unromantic because they are worn thin from heavy use, so please forgive my common, uncreative reference to William Shakespeare who wrote within his play Hamlet, a line that I find to be one of the most important and beautiful things he ever wrote. To quote Polonius, 'This above all: to thy own self be true'. If only we were able to follow the sound reasoning that friends give us and act on what we say we'll do, the boring joke of contemporary "romance" would be so much easier to deal with. I suppose in all fairness that this would also ruin a lot of the mystery in life and make dating dull, except when you find that match for yourself of a person who does what they say and says what they do in a way that makes your head swoon and your heart fill with warm fuzzies.
I have to stop for a second here and let this simmer... yes, she said its hard to find normal guys. Normality is defined as a commonality, so maybe what she was hoping to find (expecting to be 'normal') is in actuality an abnormal minority amongst mankind.
Too many times I've heard women say they just fall into relationships with bad guys, like they accidentally walked into a relationship and didn't realize that what they are attracted to is the 'wrong' sort of guy. Its the things about the 'wrong' guy that tends to attract women, they always fall for the assholes while hypocritically proclaiming that they know exactly what they want and stand firm to beliefs that are sharply defined and oh so very different from their actions.
This isn't to say that all women are like that. Not all women are hypocrites and bitches, just most of them. Same as most men are assholes and users, but you can still find the occasional guy who is truly wholesome within his heart AND his actions.
With this I'll leave off with a disclaimer and some practiced reasoning. Cliches are cliches because of their commonality (but not necessarily normality). Cliches often seem unromantic because they are worn thin from heavy use, so please forgive my common, uncreative reference to William Shakespeare who wrote within his play Hamlet, a line that I find to be one of the most important and beautiful things he ever wrote. To quote Polonius, 'This above all: to thy own self be true'. If only we were able to follow the sound reasoning that friends give us and act on what we say we'll do, the boring joke of contemporary "romance" would be so much easier to deal with. I suppose in all fairness that this would also ruin a lot of the mystery in life and make dating dull, except when you find that match for yourself of a person who does what they say and says what they do in a way that makes your head swoon and your heart fill with warm fuzzies.