Business Minded

[sashastarchaser]

I am really stressed out about a friend of mine who is dating a horrible person! It's ABSOLUTLY none of my business but it's driving me nuts! If I just didn't like the person but they had redeeming qualities it wouldn't be so bad, but they have none. NONE!!! I will never, never say anything because I just don't have the right, it's not my place,

Comments

[drjubalharshaw]

Aw c'mon... I have at least one redeeming quality... :D

[sashastarchaser]

Right. Of course. There's...the thing...that you do...oh and that one time...umm...you...uh...

JK!!! It's not you! You make little girls smile! You guys are an awesome happy couple full of steam punky goodness!

I have the same thing!!!!

[withdrgnflywngs]

ugggghhhh

it sucks because you can't say anything...

and I can't stand them...

I don't want to avoid them but it's almost worth it for my sanity

*sigh*

Re: I have the same thing!!!!

[sashastarchaser]

Right! It's like, one the one hand I want to be around even more to at least be a distraction but on the other hand I will committ a crime if I spend too much time with that other person. A crime!!! bleh.

[dleighb]

Here's my thought. While it isn't your place, you certainly have the right to say, "I love you, but I am not particularly fond of your choice of a date. I am very happy that you like him/her, but I would prefer to spend as little time as possible. Of course, I will be kind and polite to him/her because I am your friend, but I think you can do much better and are selling yourself short by being with this person." If you go on by letting them think that you love the person, they may not ever see some of the bad qualities that you in a more objective state can see.

[robgonzo]

problem with saying something like that is it's likely to create an 'us' against 'them' mentality in the mind of this person and couple and as relationships are strengthened through adversity...

[dleighb]

True. But then I've not like people, they've gotten married, then divorced. When I later said that I never cared for their SO, they replied, "Why didn't you tell me?" So, really, it is a no win situation. But it has to be better than faking to be chummy with someone and then the friend not breaking up because he/she thinks that everyone around him likes his SO.

[grian_eun]

Heh, I feel ya honey.

[kathyc514]

I don't know who you are talkign about, but they probably won't hear it. If they ask, tell them. If not, smile and be polite. No one says you have to embrace and be chummy with them/

[kirafyre]

yeah...what she said^^^
my thoughts exactly.