criticisms are vital to your enhancement
You can whine and complain all you like, but
people aren't going to adhere to your personal philosophy of what the world
should be like. This goes for the celebrity and the person on the street. You
can complain or toughen up. Sasha needs to do the latter. Sasha needs to stop
listening to both the bad AND the good judgments people make about her because
she attends to them too much and doing so skews her reality. She needs to
develop the ability to open her ear to people's criticisms and close herself off
from their judgments. If you want to improve yourself in any one endeavor, you
MUST listen to other people's criticisms. They are vital to your advancement!
When you don't listen to legitimate criticisms because you feel they are an
affront to your personal worth then you are denying yourself of an opportunity
to better yourself. If Jimmy Joe Bob says, "You need more speed going into your
triple lutz...and you suck because you aren't doing it correctly," a secure
skater will take the criticism and reject the judgment. That is a sign of a
mental strength which Sasha lacks.
-crystala
I just read this in a figure skating forum, following Sasha Cohen's mess of a long program at world's. It resonated with me.I thik we all need to learn this. I know this was the main problem between Liz and I. I would try to give her honest critcism (and I am sure I unrighteously judged her unintentionally -- because I am human), but she couldn't take it -- and she took it personally -- instead of using my feedback to improve, she used it to get defensive and try to attack and judge me...the beginning of the end.
It is nice to trust myself again. To no longer be accused of being jealous or spiteful. Part of it was my fault because I took her unrighteous judgements of me to heart, but when I finally stopped paying heed, she was still judging...and I don't need to be around that. So, I demanded respect, and apparently, she won't give it to me because I haven't heard from her. How passive agressive! I am glad to be rid of that.
people aren't going to adhere to your personal philosophy of what the world
should be like. This goes for the celebrity and the person on the street. You
can complain or toughen up. Sasha needs to do the latter. Sasha needs to stop
listening to both the bad AND the good judgments people make about her because
she attends to them too much and doing so skews her reality. She needs to
develop the ability to open her ear to people's criticisms and close herself off
from their judgments. If you want to improve yourself in any one endeavor, you
MUST listen to other people's criticisms. They are vital to your advancement!
When you don't listen to legitimate criticisms because you feel they are an
affront to your personal worth then you are denying yourself of an opportunity
to better yourself. If Jimmy Joe Bob says, "You need more speed going into your
triple lutz...and you suck because you aren't doing it correctly," a secure
skater will take the criticism and reject the judgment. That is a sign of a
mental strength which Sasha lacks.
-crystala
I just read this in a figure skating forum, following Sasha Cohen's mess of a long program at world's. It resonated with me.I thik we all need to learn this. I know this was the main problem between Liz and I. I would try to give her honest critcism (and I am sure I unrighteously judged her unintentionally -- because I am human), but she couldn't take it -- and she took it personally -- instead of using my feedback to improve, she used it to get defensive and try to attack and judge me...the beginning of the end.
It is nice to trust myself again. To no longer be accused of being jealous or spiteful. Part of it was my fault because I took her unrighteous judgements of me to heart, but when I finally stopped paying heed, she was still judging...and I don't need to be around that. So, I demanded respect, and apparently, she won't give it to me because I haven't heard from her. How passive agressive! I am glad to be rid of that.