News and stuff
Well, as a few of you know, and as the rest of you are about to know.
I am engaged.
I asked my girlfriends father on Friday the 13th if I could have his daughter's hand in marriage, and he welcomed me into the family with open arms.
Thus ended the happy news about that. I decided to inform my family that it was official on the 14th, and to that I recieved a less than happy response, including such comments.
"Are you sure she's the right one?" (To which I replied yes)
"Maybe you two should spend some time apart to make sure" (We only see each other 2-4 days a week, as she lives in Dalton)
And the comment that was a slap in the face, as well as a kick in the stomach at the same time.
"Well you've thought this once before, and look where it got you" (referring to my engagement to Tierney, over 4 years ago, which while it did end poorly for me, in hindsight of where she has taken her life, it was the best damn breakup I could of ever had)
So, after this last comment and my blood is starting to boil as I had a relationship that I had long since let go get thrown back in my face, me and Jeri decided to head back to Dalton since we were not feeling appreciated and I wanted to, for the first time in my 30 years of existance, knock my father out cold.
So, we went back north, to cool our heels, and our heads so we didn't say anything that we wouldn't mean.
Had a nice long chat with my friend James and his wife Candi, his mother, and his sister and brother-in-law, as we were so angry and hurt that we didn't drive all the way back to Dalton, but stopped in Acworth. Talked out a lot of things there, to the tune of about 4 hours, and then headed back north the rest of the way.
7 am rolls around on the dot on Sunday morning. Get a phone call telling me that I was a coward for running away from the situation and that when I was "ready to be a real man" that I could come talk to my dad face to face and one on one, and was accused of keeping my relationship with Jeri a secret.
Went to church, went to her parents for more conversation and then dinner, scheduled a meeting with a pre-marital counselor to talk over some things, like ways to try to address these issues with my parents. Most of the rest of the week goes without major incident.
Which brings me back to today.
Get back to Marietta, and talk with my family. I get informed that my mother doesn't want to see Jeri around here, and that "we'd" talk later when she was gone, just me, my mom and my dad...(some one on one there)... They barely acknowledge her existance while she was here, made some minor small talk with her, and when we brought up details about the wedding, like location, when we are planning to have it etc... it was short, few syllable answers and then us getting ignored again. But, when my younger brother (29) comes in with his teenage fiancee(17)talking about the houses that they looked at my mother gets all gushing and happy for them...
So, I'm just frustrated at my family right now, cause while we want them to be a part of our lives they, it feels like, are trying to push us away and apart from them, and needless to say, that part hurts both of us a great deal.
I am engaged.
I asked my girlfriends father on Friday the 13th if I could have his daughter's hand in marriage, and he welcomed me into the family with open arms.
Thus ended the happy news about that. I decided to inform my family that it was official on the 14th, and to that I recieved a less than happy response, including such comments.
"Are you sure she's the right one?" (To which I replied yes)
"Maybe you two should spend some time apart to make sure" (We only see each other 2-4 days a week, as she lives in Dalton)
And the comment that was a slap in the face, as well as a kick in the stomach at the same time.
"Well you've thought this once before, and look where it got you" (referring to my engagement to Tierney, over 4 years ago, which while it did end poorly for me, in hindsight of where she has taken her life, it was the best damn breakup I could of ever had)
So, after this last comment and my blood is starting to boil as I had a relationship that I had long since let go get thrown back in my face, me and Jeri decided to head back to Dalton since we were not feeling appreciated and I wanted to, for the first time in my 30 years of existance, knock my father out cold.
So, we went back north, to cool our heels, and our heads so we didn't say anything that we wouldn't mean.
Had a nice long chat with my friend James and his wife Candi, his mother, and his sister and brother-in-law, as we were so angry and hurt that we didn't drive all the way back to Dalton, but stopped in Acworth. Talked out a lot of things there, to the tune of about 4 hours, and then headed back north the rest of the way.
7 am rolls around on the dot on Sunday morning. Get a phone call telling me that I was a coward for running away from the situation and that when I was "ready to be a real man" that I could come talk to my dad face to face and one on one, and was accused of keeping my relationship with Jeri a secret.
Went to church, went to her parents for more conversation and then dinner, scheduled a meeting with a pre-marital counselor to talk over some things, like ways to try to address these issues with my parents. Most of the rest of the week goes without major incident.
Which brings me back to today.
Get back to Marietta, and talk with my family. I get informed that my mother doesn't want to see Jeri around here, and that "we'd" talk later when she was gone, just me, my mom and my dad...(some one on one there)... They barely acknowledge her existance while she was here, made some minor small talk with her, and when we brought up details about the wedding, like location, when we are planning to have it etc... it was short, few syllable answers and then us getting ignored again. But, when my younger brother (29) comes in with his teenage fiancee(17)talking about the houses that they looked at my mother gets all gushing and happy for them...
So, I'm just frustrated at my family right now, cause while we want them to be a part of our lives they, it feels like, are trying to push us away and apart from them, and needless to say, that part hurts both of us a great deal.