Be like a duck
"Be like a duck. Calm on the surface, but always paddling like the dickens underneath."
- Michael Caine
Many people I know, especially those I call friends, are like this. They go about accomplishing their lives with quiet grace and dignity. Their lives are rich and they do not need to put it on public display for the world to see. That is because they value what they do, not someone else's opinion of it. Do not assume that because some people do not talk of it, they do not lead their own, busy lives.
The point: Do not expect people to go out of their way for you if you did not ask them to. They have their own matters to consider first.
It is immature to throw a tantrum when people do not come flocking after an angsty display. It would be nice if people did but that is a bonus, not an obligation. Why? Personally, I assume most of the people I know are adults. Adults can take care of themselves and what they are responsible for. If adults want help, they ask for it. Otherwise, all the talk is just venting; a chance to complain about the unfairness of the world to relieve mental stress. Venting is healthy, it is a way to adjust to and accept adversity; a way to overcome self-pity. But it isn't a request for aid or support.
Self-pity
I never saw a wild thing
sorry for itself.
A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough
without ever having felt sorry for itself.
- DH Lawrence
Do not be a victim
To self-pity.
Self-pity is at once
The beginning and the end
Of life's uselessness.
- Sri Chinmoy
- Michael Caine
Many people I know, especially those I call friends, are like this. They go about accomplishing their lives with quiet grace and dignity. Their lives are rich and they do not need to put it on public display for the world to see. That is because they value what they do, not someone else's opinion of it. Do not assume that because some people do not talk of it, they do not lead their own, busy lives.
The point: Do not expect people to go out of their way for you if you did not ask them to. They have their own matters to consider first.
It is immature to throw a tantrum when people do not come flocking after an angsty display. It would be nice if people did but that is a bonus, not an obligation. Why? Personally, I assume most of the people I know are adults. Adults can take care of themselves and what they are responsible for. If adults want help, they ask for it. Otherwise, all the talk is just venting; a chance to complain about the unfairness of the world to relieve mental stress. Venting is healthy, it is a way to adjust to and accept adversity; a way to overcome self-pity. But it isn't a request for aid or support.
Self-pity
I never saw a wild thing
sorry for itself.
A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough
without ever having felt sorry for itself.
- DH Lawrence
Do not be a victim
To self-pity.
Self-pity is at once
The beginning and the end
Of life's uselessness.
- Sri Chinmoy