I reckon that so long as the fantasy isn't being used as a substitute for reality, then its all good.
I only say that as yeah, years back when I was alot more socially inept and shy, I liked nothing more than to fantasise about what I would do or say instead of actually trying to do it in reality, mostly because I didn't feel confident enough to try it for real.
Unfortunately, I got to the point where fantasising about these things in my head felt alot more appealing than actually trying things in reality.
Mostly because when ya think about it, you are in complete control of any scenario that you can cook up in your head, so everything is always going to go the way you want. However, if you try to take any of these scenarios and actually do them in reality, any control you had over the situation vanishes straight away, and things may not go anywhere close to the way you wanted.
So yeah, once I realised this, I stopped fantasising so much and actually started trying live my life in reality for a change lol.
I got mixed results, but thats to be expected, and when ya think about it, you will always learn more for failing than you will at succeeding lol :P
I only say that as yeah, years back when I was alot more socially inept and shy, I liked nothing more than to fantasise about what I would do or say instead of actually trying to do it in reality, mostly because I didn't feel confident enough to try it for real.
Unfortunately, I got to the point where fantasising about these things in my head felt alot more appealing than actually trying things in reality.
Mostly because when ya think about it, you are in complete control of any scenario that you can cook up in your head, so everything is always going to go the way you want. However, if you try to take any of these scenarios and actually do them in reality, any control you had over the situation vanishes straight away, and things may not go anywhere close to the way you wanted.
So yeah, once I realised this, I stopped fantasising so much and actually started trying live my life in reality for a change lol.
I got mixed results, but thats to be expected, and when ya think about it, you will always learn more for failing than you will at succeeding lol :P
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