This is how Adam broke it off with me in 2010.
I was sending a message of Facebook to someone else, and saw this gem there. I thought I'd deleted after I told him "Good riddance.". He imagined I did a lot of what he says I did to him. =P
If you wanted to be left alone, at least attempt COMMUNICATION and tell me, not leave me out in the cold guessing. God damnit Kay, for the first time I'm angry with you now. You're such a child and I'm sick of your emotional S&M and games.
You say you are inexperienced, you say you've not been in a real relationship before and that you're scared of everything, you are new to everything but thats NOT an excuse to lack the most basic of social skills, to not realise (or care) that some of your behaviours are so hurtful to me.
Love is not like a tap, you can't turn it on when you want me to be close, and then turn it off when you want me to go away.
You say you love me. But I am starting to find that hard to believe. Hiding from me, not talking to me. You've not abandoned me in the physical sense, but your if heart holds nothing for me, then why are we even together?
I know you have stuff going on and you're stressed. But even so you've been giving out some strong signals - maybe you're bored/lost interest/ it's too difficult/you found someone else? I don't know - you're heart just doesn't seem in it anymore.
I've spoken to friends, and they are saying to break it off. I've got girls who've been pestering me for sex... I love you babe, and I want you. I've said no to them so far, but I'm running out of reasons as to why.
So, I'm breaking us off, it's hurting me to do it, but I am obviously demanding too much from you and can't seem to make you happy, and that makes me feel bad. I know that you sometimes lack the assertiveness to say and do things that you want at times, that you are so focused on people pleasing or doing what you feel you're obliged to do. I want you to be totally free and honest Kay. So now I've done the dirty work - and you're free of me.
If you think I've been unfair or made a mistake, if that *this* isn't really what you want and you want to talk things over - I'm not blocking you, so you can message me. Should we keep trying? (because you never answered my questions about 'how will you manage to meet/be with me when you had so much difficulty even publically acknowledging me?').
If you wanted to be left alone, at least attempt COMMUNICATION and tell me, not leave me out in the cold guessing. God damnit Kay, for the first time I'm angry with you now. You're such a child and I'm sick of your emotional S&M and games.
You say you are inexperienced, you say you've not been in a real relationship before and that you're scared of everything, you are new to everything but thats NOT an excuse to lack the most basic of social skills, to not realise (or care) that some of your behaviours are so hurtful to me.
Love is not like a tap, you can't turn it on when you want me to be close, and then turn it off when you want me to go away.
You say you love me. But I am starting to find that hard to believe. Hiding from me, not talking to me. You've not abandoned me in the physical sense, but your if heart holds nothing for me, then why are we even together?
I know you have stuff going on and you're stressed. But even so you've been giving out some strong signals - maybe you're bored/lost interest/ it's too difficult/you found someone else? I don't know - you're heart just doesn't seem in it anymore.
I've spoken to friends, and they are saying to break it off. I've got girls who've been pestering me for sex... I love you babe, and I want you. I've said no to them so far, but I'm running out of reasons as to why.
So, I'm breaking us off, it's hurting me to do it, but I am obviously demanding too much from you and can't seem to make you happy, and that makes me feel bad. I know that you sometimes lack the assertiveness to say and do things that you want at times, that you are so focused on people pleasing or doing what you feel you're obliged to do. I want you to be totally free and honest Kay. So now I've done the dirty work - and you're free of me.
If you think I've been unfair or made a mistake, if that *this* isn't really what you want and you want to talk things over - I'm not blocking you, so you can message me. Should we keep trying? (because you never answered my questions about 'how will you manage to meet/be with me when you had so much difficulty even publically acknowledging me?').