Birthday backfire
So yeh, who woulda thought that trying to prevent people from having a shit time would backfire so much?
Couple of weeks ago, I let slip to a group of friends from work that it's my birthday on the 19th, and they go "Oh, what're we gonna be doing?". I don't mind their assumption - I'm flattered. But I hate birthdays anyway, especially being the centre of attention. So I invite this group of friends to a drink and a meal out.
I also invite my best mate from work, just because he's my best mate. I'm well aware that he doesn't even talk to this group that's already invited, not that they don't get along with each other, but they just don't know each other. And that's exactly the reason I didn't invite anybody else - I didn't want different groups of friends being there and not mixing, possibly having a bad time, and I woulda been the one who invited them on this bad night out.
Turns out my best mate can't make it anyway, but he lets slip to other people at work - people who I like a ~lot~ - and they get all offended that they weren't invited. They promise to me they're not offended... But they are.
I wish they could see why I didn't invite them, but looking at it from their point of view... I'm such an idiot.
Couple of weeks ago, I let slip to a group of friends from work that it's my birthday on the 19th, and they go "Oh, what're we gonna be doing?". I don't mind their assumption - I'm flattered. But I hate birthdays anyway, especially being the centre of attention. So I invite this group of friends to a drink and a meal out.
I also invite my best mate from work, just because he's my best mate. I'm well aware that he doesn't even talk to this group that's already invited, not that they don't get along with each other, but they just don't know each other. And that's exactly the reason I didn't invite anybody else - I didn't want different groups of friends being there and not mixing, possibly having a bad time, and I woulda been the one who invited them on this bad night out.
Turns out my best mate can't make it anyway, but he lets slip to other people at work - people who I like a ~lot~ - and they get all offended that they weren't invited. They promise to me they're not offended... But they are.
I wish they could see why I didn't invite them, but looking at it from their point of view... I'm such an idiot.