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Yes. THIS.
I may not always think Safe, Sane and Consensual are the best blanket buzzwords*... but keeping your brain with you at all times is a good guideline for newer folks no matter WHAT community you're sticking your toe into. (And when it comes time to let the brain dive into the game at hand... make sure you've already used that brain in considering who you're trusting your safety and your sanity to while you are otherwise occupied.)
Jet has some other great gems (thimky stuff as well as erotica and other bits) at her website at A Sliver of Moonlight. The exchanges in the Newsgroup Natterings section can be quite thought-provoking for newer folks as well as those that have been around for awhile.
*Or at least not without some significant conversation about what SSC means to the people involved here and now thinking about this particular game, since there's a whole world of difference between some folk's definitions and in the middle of an intense -whatever- is not the time to discover that your partner's definitions are drastically different from yours.
I may not always think Safe, Sane and Consensual are the best blanket buzzwords*... but keeping your brain with you at all times is a good guideline for newer folks no matter WHAT community you're sticking your toe into. (And when it comes time to let the brain dive into the game at hand... make sure you've already used that brain in considering who you're trusting your safety and your sanity to while you are otherwise occupied.)
Jet has some other great gems (thimky stuff as well as erotica and other bits) at her website at A Sliver of Moonlight. The exchanges in the Newsgroup Natterings section can be quite thought-provoking for newer folks as well as those that have been around for awhile.
*Or at least not without some significant conversation about what SSC means to the people involved here and now thinking about this particular game, since there's a whole world of difference between some folk's definitions and in the middle of an intense -whatever- is not the time to discover that your partner's definitions are drastically different from yours.