Experience #7 - My Thoughts on Bullies Now
TW: Mentions of bullying
I completely understand how being bullied can affect those who have been in the long-term. Why? I've been there since I was a kid, especially back in either Pre-K or Kindergarten. Thankfully, it's almost non-existent now since I won't tolerate any of it anymore.
Back then, I was mostly bullied by boys. I don't know why? But there were many things I can remember thanks to my having a great memory bank. From what I remember, only two of them were apologetic. Their sincere apologies were shown through their actions. That is fine by me.
At the same time, I refuse to do anything nice for the bullies and gossip-mongers who talk bad about me and possibly other people that I know. To me, they still have more work to do after the trauma they induced on me. I could name names, but it would be a tl;dr entry, which is not what I'm going for.
Most of my bullies refused to apologize for they've done. Though I have since forgiven them, I continue to live my life as if I don't know them, let alone who they are. I have to be honest, while being bullied at school, there was a Zero Tolerance policy for fighting. If anything, then it's just going to make the victims of bullying NOT trust the authorities and take matters into their own hands. Thankfully, I do try my best to be the bigger person and keep my head up, live a better life than they ever had. In my own case, there have been matters that I could've sunk to their level and bully others. But to those who didn't deserve my wrath are the ones I will sincerely apologize to, even now.
So what do I think of them now? For them to be so brazen and not show any remorse for what they've done...they really DON'T deserve to be happy in life, love, or even with having a successful career. They have come close to ruining my life. Their bullying had basically defined me over the years, leaving me angry at them while I wait for their apologies. For the guys, let's just say that I finally understood that my downward spiral to becoming a misandrist---and possibly a misanthrope at an early age---was just icing on the cake. Just because they're bigger than others, seeing them as different than they are, even having a horrible family life and then looking for someone to be their punching bag in any way, shape, and form, does NOT give them the excuse to hurt others, nor does it justify their heinous actions. All that I observed from this is they just look and act like fools. The same goes for cyberbullies. In that case, they deserve to be exposed for the people that they are---evil people. Wishing them death, however, is too much even for myself.
I may have mentioned bullying customers while I was working at a call center in a previous entry, yet it also applies to this one.
Those who have been victimized, don't be timid like I was in the past just so you can avoid trouble with authorities. Stand up for yourself. If they physically hit you, hit back. Have them arrested for assault if it gets any worse. If they are verbally bullying you, snap back. They're just projecting their horrible selves onto you to make you feel bad about yourself. It may be a frightening thing, but don't EVER let them get away with it. If you want to do something nice for your bullies, go ahead, though I say it's risky. But in my experience, it may be asking for trouble later on. If a co-worker and/or employer gives you poor treatment, report them. If there are positive results in the end, be proud.
Wow...this is turning into a tl;dr already. And so...I rest my case.
I completely understand how being bullied can affect those who have been in the long-term. Why? I've been there since I was a kid, especially back in either Pre-K or Kindergarten. Thankfully, it's almost non-existent now since I won't tolerate any of it anymore.
Back then, I was mostly bullied by boys. I don't know why? But there were many things I can remember thanks to my having a great memory bank. From what I remember, only two of them were apologetic. Their sincere apologies were shown through their actions. That is fine by me.
At the same time, I refuse to do anything nice for the bullies and gossip-mongers who talk bad about me and possibly other people that I know. To me, they still have more work to do after the trauma they induced on me. I could name names, but it would be a tl;dr entry, which is not what I'm going for.
Most of my bullies refused to apologize for they've done. Though I have since forgiven them, I continue to live my life as if I don't know them, let alone who they are. I have to be honest, while being bullied at school, there was a Zero Tolerance policy for fighting. If anything, then it's just going to make the victims of bullying NOT trust the authorities and take matters into their own hands. Thankfully, I do try my best to be the bigger person and keep my head up, live a better life than they ever had. In my own case, there have been matters that I could've sunk to their level and bully others. But to those who didn't deserve my wrath are the ones I will sincerely apologize to, even now.
So what do I think of them now? For them to be so brazen and not show any remorse for what they've done...they really DON'T deserve to be happy in life, love, or even with having a successful career. They have come close to ruining my life. Their bullying had basically defined me over the years, leaving me angry at them while I wait for their apologies. For the guys, let's just say that I finally understood that my downward spiral to becoming a misandrist---and possibly a misanthrope at an early age---was just icing on the cake. Just because they're bigger than others, seeing them as different than they are, even having a horrible family life and then looking for someone to be their punching bag in any way, shape, and form, does NOT give them the excuse to hurt others, nor does it justify their heinous actions. All that I observed from this is they just look and act like fools. The same goes for cyberbullies. In that case, they deserve to be exposed for the people that they are---evil people. Wishing them death, however, is too much even for myself.
I may have mentioned bullying customers while I was working at a call center in a previous entry, yet it also applies to this one.
Those who have been victimized, don't be timid like I was in the past just so you can avoid trouble with authorities. Stand up for yourself. If they physically hit you, hit back. Have them arrested for assault if it gets any worse. If they are verbally bullying you, snap back. They're just projecting their horrible selves onto you to make you feel bad about yourself. It may be a frightening thing, but don't EVER let them get away with it. If you want to do something nice for your bullies, go ahead, though I say it's risky. But in my experience, it may be asking for trouble later on. If a co-worker and/or employer gives you poor treatment, report them. If there are positive results in the end, be proud.
Wow...this is turning into a tl;dr already. And so...I rest my case.